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2006-07-27T09:58:52Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* Good to see you again! */</p>
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<div>Hey everyone. <br />
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I'm hoping to become a regular contributor here, and to assist in writing articles as best I can. It's a great topic, BDSM, and it's been a wonderful community that I've been happy to be a part of for a couple years now on bondage.com. <br />
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You can reach me directly at viciouslover at gmail dot com or leave a posting here for me to read. <br />
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Most of the things I post I do so in stages, and you'll find that I write a basic summary first, than begin the task of adding links and media files etc, where applicable. At that point I begin to find references that make more sense and add those bits of information to the main article. <br />
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I'm looking to at least make building blocks to articles that others can contribute to, and help in the future editing process of other articles. <br />
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Thanks!!!<br />
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== Welcome! ==<br />
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Hi and welcome to the wipi. Please feel free to make changes to any article that needs it! [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 19:10, 25 December 2005 (GMT)<br />
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== Contract and Contracts ==<br />
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We also have an article called [[contracts]] you might want to combine the two into one. There does seem to be little duplication but they do cover the same basic subject [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 00:09, 26 December 2005 (GMT)<br />
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Yeah, I saw that after the fact. When I searched for 'contract' the page didn't come up. Either that, or I didn't see it. My bad. I'll work on incorporating the two pages....--[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 00:10:43, 2005-12-26 (GMT)<br />
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==Good to see you again!==<br />
Hi, it's good to see you back. --[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 11:25, 26 July 2006 (BST)<br />
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Hey Interesdom, thanks. I noticed people were making changes to some pages that I didn't quite agree with; that sorta dragged my ass back onto the site...lol. <br />
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Love what you guys are doing with the place.</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=S%26M
S&M
2006-07-25T23:43:31Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
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<div>S&M is an abbreviation of [[sadomasochism]] and forms a central theme in much of the sexuality associated with the [[fetish]] scene. '''[[Sadism]]''' is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. '''[[Masochism]]''', the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self. For a more detailed explanation of S&M see [[sadomasochism]].<br />
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'''Sadism''' is the derivation of sexual pleasure, or gratification, in the infliction of [[pain]] and suffering upon another person. Psychiatrically, it is considered to be a [[paraphilia]]. Sadism in the BDSM world, although societally somewhat unacceptable, is encouraged. The word itself is derived from the name of the [[Marquis de Sade]], a prolific French writer of sadistic novels.<br />
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The obverse of sadism is '''masochism''', sexual pleasure or excitment or gratification by having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self, often consisting of sexual fantasies or urges for being beaten, [[Humiliation|humiliated]], [[sexual bondage|bound]], [[torture|tortured]], or otherwise made to suffer, either as an enhancement to, or a substitute for, sexual pleasure. The name is derived from the name of the 19th century author [[Leopold von Sacher-Masoch]], known for his novel ''Venus in Furs'' which dealt with highly masochistic themes.<br />
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The words are now commonly used to describe personality traits in an emotional, rather than sexual sense. Although this is quite different from the original meaning of both terms, this usage is not entirely inaccurate. There is quite frequently a strong emotional aspect to the sexual desires, taking the form of a need for [[Domination and submission|domination or submission]]&#8212;the desire to be controlled, or to control another, as opposed to a simple desire for pain (which is known as [[algolagnia]]).<br />
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It is often claimed that a desire for dominance or submission is in fact the driving force behind sadomasochism, with the giving and receiving of pain acting only as an active stimulation to reinforce those feelings. This view is supported by the nature of sadomasochistic behavior. A masochist does not in general take pleasure in any arbitary form of pain, only in pain received under the pretext of enforcing authority, and typically only that in a sexual context. Likewise, a sadist usually only takes pleasure in pain that is inflicted for reasons of punishment and control, and most often for the indirect pleasure of the masochist. Many sadomasochistic activities involve only mild pain or discomfort. Indeed, they are often focused primarily on [[Sexual roleplaying|roleplay]].<br />
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== The biology of S&amp;M ==<br />
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[[Pain]], violence, [[sex]] and love all are associated with the release of a variety of hormones and chemicals within the human body. Furthermore, humans have been shown to exhibit symathetic responses in their bodies while watching, hearing, or imagining such experiences.<br />
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* Levels of sex hormone testosterone can be temporarily affected by one's role S&M interactions. Dominant participants often have raised testosterone levels; whereas submissive participants often get depressed testosterone levels.<br />
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* [[Endorphin]]s are released by painful experiences and can be perceived as pleasurable and possibly addictive.<br />
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* Lactic acid is released by muscles during anaerobic stress; the sensation of muscle ache it occasions can be perceived as pleasurable by some.<br />
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* Brain chemicals such as serotonin and melatonin also seem to be affected by emotional or stressful experiences.<br />
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The effects of S&M on body chemistry seems likley to reinforces the behavior and therefore creates psychological states that seek further such behavior.<br />
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== The psychology of S&amp;M ==<br />
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The terms sadism and masochism were first consistently used to describe these behaviors by the German psychiatrist Richard Freiherr von Krafft-Ebing in his 1886 book ''Psychopathia Sexualis'', a famous study of sexual perversity. Sigmund Freud, a psychoanalyst and a contemporary of Krafft-Ebing, noted that both were often found in the same individuals, and combined the two into a single dichotomous entity known as '''sadomasochism''' (often abbreviated as '''S&amp;M''' or '''S/M'''). This observation is commonly seen to be apt in both literature and practice; many sadists and masochists define themselves as "[[switch|switchable]]"&#8212;capable of taking pleasure in either role.<br />
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Both Krafft-Ebing and Freud assumed that sadism in men resulted from the distortion of the aggressive component of the male sexual instinct. Masochism in men, however, was seen as a more significant aberration, contrary to the nature of male sexuality. Freud doubted that masochism in men was ever a primary tendency, and speculated that it may exist only as a transformation of sadism. Sadomasochism in women received comparatively little discussion, as it was believed that it occurred primarily in men. Both also assumed that masochism was so inherent to female sexuality that it would be difficult to distinguish as a separate inclination.<br />
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Havelock Ellis, in ''Studies in the Psychology of Sex'', argued that there is no clear distinction between the aspects of sadism and masochism, and that they may be regarded as complementary emotional states. He also made the important point that sadomasochism is concerned only with pain in regards to sexual pleasure, and not in regards to cruelty, as Freud had suggested. In other words, the sadomasochist generally desires that the pain be inflicted or received in love, not in abuse, for the pleasure of either one or both participants. This mutual pleasure may even be essential for the satisfaction of those involved.<br />
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And so Ellis touched upon the often paradoxical nature of consensual S&M. It is not only pain to initiate pleasure, but violence&#8212;or the simulation of violence&#8212;to express love. This contradictory character is perhaps most evident in the observation by some that not only are sadomasochistic activities usually done for the benefit of the masochist, but that it is often the masochist who controls them, through subtle emotional cues received by the sadist.<br />
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Many theorists, particularly feminist theories, have suggested that sadomasochism is an inherent part of our culture. According to their theories, sex and relationships are both consistently taught to be formulated within a framework of male dominance and female submission. Some of them further link this hypothesized framework to inequalities among gender, class, and race which remain a substantial part of society, despite the efforts of the civil rights movement and [[feminism]]. However, the degree to which any of these influences actually affect sexuality -- either consciously or unconsciously -- is unknown, and the validity of this theory of socially-conditioned female masochism is questionable.<br />
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There are a number of reasons commonly given for why a sadomasochist finds the practice of S&M enjoyable, and the answer is largely dependent on the individual. For some, taking on a role of compliance or helplessness offers a form of therapeutic escape; from the stresses of life, from responsiblity, or from guilt. For others, being under the power of a strong, controlling presence may evoke the feelings of safety and protection associated with childhood. They likewise may derive satisfaction from pleasing, or earning the approval of, that figure ''(see: [[Servitude]])''. A sadist, on the other hand, may enjoy the feeling of power and authority that comes from playing the dominant role, or receive pleasure vicariously through the suffering of the masochist. It is poorly understood, though, what ultimately connects these emotional experiences to sexual gratification, or how that connection initially forms.<br />
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It is usually agreed on by psychologists that experiences during early sexual development can have a profound effect on the character of sexuality later in life. Sadomasochistic desires, however, seem to form at a variety of ages. Some individuals report having had them before puberty, while others do not discover them until well into adulthood. According to one study, the majority of male sadomasochists (53%) developed their interest before the age of 15, while the majority of females (78%) developed their interest afterwards (Breslow, Evans, and Langley 1985). Like sexual [[Fetish|fetishes]], sadomasochism can be learned through conditioning&#8212;in this context, the repeated association of sexual pleasure with an object or stimulus.<br />
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== Sadism and masochism in real life ==<br />
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The term [[BDSM]] has been created to describe the quite common activities between consenting adults that contain sadistic and masochistic elements. Many behaviors such as [[erotic spanking]] and [[love-bite]]s that many people think of only as "rough" sex probably also contain elements of sado-masochism.<br />
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In certain extreme cases, sadism and masochism can include fantasies, sexual urges or behaviour that cause significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning, to the point that they can be considered aspects of a mental disorder. However, this is an uncommon case, and psychiatrists are now moving towards regarding sadism and masochism not as disorders in and of themselves, but only as disorders when associated with other problems such as a personality disorder.<br />
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== Sadism as a motivation for crime ==<br />
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A small minority of disordered individuals commit crimes with a strong sadistic element. This is generally considered to be caused by personality disorders. Recently, there have been theories that many of these personality disorders have been caused by brain damage.<br />
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== Sadism and masochism in fiction ==<br />
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In general, the depiction of [[sadism and masochism in fiction]] tends to be portrayed from the viewpoint of masochistic fantasy.<br />
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De Sade's own works are, by and large, equal opportunity S and M, generally in the context of a comemntary on morality or the nature of human desire social contraint, anti-clericalism, and existential freedom.<br />
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Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's novel ''[[Venus in Furs]]'' is essentially one long masochistic fantasy, where the male principal character encourages his mistress to mistreat him.<br />
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The novel (and later movie) ''9 1/2 Weeks'' is the story of a BDSM relationship between a man and a woman over a summer. <br />
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''[[Story of O]]'' is another classic masochistic novel, written by a woman, [[Pauline Réage]]. In this novel, the female principal character is treated sadistically by her lover, and then, in an out of a chateau run by an S/M organization, by a group of men.<br />
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The novelist [[Anne Rice]], best known for ''[[Interview with the Vampire]]'', wrote the sadomasochistic trilogy <br />
''[[The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty]]'', and the BDSM book, Exit to Eden, under the pseudonym of A. N. Roquelaure.<br />
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The 2001 movie ''[[La Pianiste]]'' (released with subtitles as ''The Piano Teacher'') describes a relationship between a repressed piano teacher and her pupil, which ends unhappily when she reveals her extreme masochistic desires to him, which brings the relationship to an end, but not before he has made a disgusted attempt to enact his conception of her masochistic fantasies.<br />
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A 2002 movie, ''[[Secretary]]'', directed by Steven Shainberg, explores the relationship between a masochistic secretary, and her dominant, sadistic employer.<br />
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As of 2003, sadomasochistic themes are now common in mainstream [[Literature|erotic fiction]], to the point of clich&eacute;.<br />
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==References==<br />
* Breslow N, Evans L, Langley J. On the prevalence and roles of females in the sadomasochistic subculture: Report of an empirical study. ''Archives of Sexual Behavior'' 1985;(14):303-17.<br />
* Anita Phillips. ''A Defense of Masochism'', ISBN 0312192584<br />
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==See also==<br />
* [[BDSM]]<br />
* [[Paraphilia]]<br />
* [[sadism]]<br />
* [[masochism]]<br />
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==External links==<br />
*[http://www.tes.org The Eulenspiegel Society], founded in New York City in 1971 is the oldest explicit SM support group in the US.<br />
*[http://www.soj.org The Society of Janus], founded in San Francisco, California in 1974 is the second oldest SM support group in the US.<br />
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[[category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Advice:_Masters
Advice: Masters
2006-07-25T23:34:06Z
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<div>== What is a Master? ==<br />
First off, you should read the article [[Master (BDSM)]] and [[slave]] to at least get a grasp on what each term means to you personally. <br />
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Although in the English language the term "Master" refers to one of expert status in their field, it carries no such automatic or certified meaning in the BDSM context. That is not to say that a Master is not an expert or trained, it must not be taken for granted. <br />
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In this discussion, we'll be using the term Master as "One who Dominates a submissive in a [[power exchange]] situation." Of any kind. An example of a middle interpretation being a specific temporary scene where you are controlling the situation, an extreme interpretation being ownership of a slave in a [[TPE|total power exchange]] relationship. <br />
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This discussion assumes that people can and do [[switch]] roles as well, and implies such role reversal is not only possible, but common in the lifestyle.<br />
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== General Understandings ==<br />
*You are the [[Dominant]] one of the relationship. <br />
*Your partner is the [[submissive]] one. <br />
*You are capable mentally and emotionally of leading and guideing. <br />
*Your partner is similarly capable of being led.<br />
*You practice [[safe, sane and consensual]] activities. <br />
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If you disagree with any of these ideas, you will find yourself either very confused in reading this, or people will be confused by you in real life. If you disagree with all of these statements, you may wish to reevaluate your thoughts on participating in this [[lifestyle]] altogether as you do not share the minimum attitudes necessary for safety, responsibility for your actions, and caring for your partner in other ways.<br />
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== Responsibilities ==<br />
In virtually all aspects of a [[scene]], and in some cases entire [[lifestyle]] decisions, you (the Master) bear responsiblity for your [[slave]]/submissive. Having a keen grasp on your own life, having a sense of responsibility for your own life and actions, and understanding your [[limits]] and your submissive's risks are just some ideas one in the [[lifestyle]] equates with being a good [[Master]]. <br />
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Even if your [[submissive]] directs you in a temporary [[scene]] (thus, [[Topping From The Bottom]]) or you [[switch]], it is still your clear responsibility to be aware of their needs and desires, and their safety beyond all else, as long as you are assuming the role as the [[Master]]. <br />
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Being a good Master doesn't mean you are perfect in all aspects of your life. No one is, by some standard or another. You might be fundamentally challenged when it comes to keeping your finances in order or in using computers, but neither will necessarily make you a poor Master. On the other hand, you might be the greatest boss at your work and be a horrible Master in this lifestyle. <br />
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While considering being a Master, ask yourself "To what extent should I take responsibility over another human being's decisions." If and when you can answer this question honestly and accurately, the answer will lend to a more objective outlook on [[negotiation]] with a submissive or slave.<br />
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== Research ==<br />
Your best bet as a beginner in the [[lifestyle]], especially when faced with the prospect of a [[submissive]] interested in you, is to research and understand your role as much as possible, as well as potential [[training]] techniques. Even if you are ten years in the lifestyle, learning a new tool or idea is always helpful, and always relevant, as there is always more new information available to make your lifestyle more exciting or fulfilling. <br />
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You should consider that training a submissive is also training yourself, regardless of your experience. You should always be willing to learn new aspects of the lifestlye. <br />
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One effective way to do this is to learn what [[IRC]] is and become a guest at one of the thousands of [[chatrooms]] available on a wide variety of topics. You'll likely find that, as you explore these different worlds, you will experience many different situations. Be the [[voyeur]], sit back, and just observe. You may find that you share widely appreciated [[fetishes]] or [[kink]]s that you had no idea anyone else was interested in, nevermind by like-minded people all over the world. <br />
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Not only that, as you interract with others, you will see how strangers percieve you. This can only assist you in developing your [[role playing]] skills, as well as contibute to your development as a Master. If people seem to be reluctant to talk to you online, or you are consistently shunned or banned from chatrooms, you might need to work on your communication skills before approaching a potential submissive either online or in real life. <br />
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Looking at the online community as an opportunity to learn about the lifestyle (rather than just a place to meet someone) is only advantageous to you and your future in the lifestyle. but note that there are a considerable number of poseurs and frauds to found on the Internet, and so not everyhting you observe will be translatable to real life. You'll have to adjust some perceptions to reality.<br />
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== Defining Your Role ==<br />
It is between you and your slave/submissive to define roles and specific responsibilities before entering into a BDSM relationship. As the Master, it will be up to you to bring most of the negotiable items to the table. If you are too inexperienced to do so, or haven't done enough research to have an intelligent understanding of these things, it will likely be a good idea to step back and reconsider or evaluate your expectations and abilities. You might have to tone things (fantasies or desires) down a bit. You might even consider stopping negotiations until you can get a better grasp on things.<br />
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== Expectations ==<br />
Once you've at least become acclimated to the lifestyle, have expectations! You have every right to expect certain basics from anyone you choose to make a part of your life. Having expectations is not wrong in the least; having unrealistic expectations gets most people into emotional upheaval and relationship problems from the start. <br />
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For instance. You might expect that every single submissive you meet has the potential to become your personal slave and participate in [[TPE]] ''with you''. This is a good example of having a highly unrealistic expectation of this lifestyle in general. Chances are reasonable that you may indeed find a submissive willing to give some part of themselves to you. ''Expecting this'', you will find, is unrealistic, although seemingly "confident." <br />
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A more realistic, though somewhat prosaic, expectation might be that every submissive you meet understand or at least grasp the concept of the English Language to the extent they can communicate effectively; especially, for instance, if you meet them in an English speeking community and they are English speaking themselves. ''Expecting them'' to actually communicate to you their every waking desire and need immediately afer meeting you is highly unrealistic. <br />
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When meeting someone in a chatroom devoted to [[foot worship]], for another instance, a realistic expectation is that that person might actually be interested in (or even fascinated with) foot worship. It would be unrealistic to think they want to ''worship your feet'' in particular.<br />
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== The Best Policies ==<br />
Honesty! <br />
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*Be honest with yourself, and by all means, be honest with your partner. If you've never tried something they wish to try, tell them! If something you are looking to try scares you, tell them! <br />
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*The last thing you want to do is get involved in a scene that incorporates something you have absolutely no clue about, only to find out that someone's well being is in danger due to your negligent ignorance. This may have legal implicaitons in some communities as well. <br />
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Communication!<br />
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*The BDSM lifestyle often differentiates itself from [[vanilla]] relationships in the way communication plays such an explicilty important role. Negotiating, discussing, talking, and than doing it all over again; it's ongoing throughout a relationship. And ot what many on the outside expect, either.<br />
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*Meeting someone who doesn't communicate effectively, or when it seems appropriate, should be looked at with a great deal of skepticism. If they don't communicate well now, how will they do so under stress of a scene while you are trying to determine their mental or emotional state?<br />
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Intensity!<br />
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*Is the level of intensity what you expect? Too much? Too little?<br />
*Increase the chances of having a mutual beneficial level of intensity by communicating honestly with your partner.<br />
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== Other Advice ==<br />
Avoid [[role erosion]]. As the dominant partner, it is your responsibility to either make sure the relationship is healthy, or to terminate it if it cannot be made to the partners' needs.<br />
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==External Resources==<br />
* [http://www.family.org/married/comm/a0019372.cfm How a Husband Should Handle His Wife's Submission] (quite a gentle introduction)<br />
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* [http://www.consent.co.nz/index1.htm D-s and BDSM Information Resource]<br />
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* [http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=18217996183708158422 OKCupid! presents The Are you Dominant or submissive Test] (a bit of <br />
fun but may also stir some thoughts and might be a way to introduce the idea to your partner)<br />
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* [http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/faq.shtml D-S FAQ - The Newbie Pack]<br />
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* [http://www.angelfire.com/wizard/mastersilk_dizzy/ MasterSilk and dizzy{MS} Guide to BDSM For Beginners]<br />
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* [http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/novicequestions.htm Novice Questions] (also see the many links at the bottom of that page)<br />
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* [http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/rulebegdom.htm Rules for Beginning Doms] (A bit 'cheesy' but it could be helpful for a raw and nervous beginner)<br />
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* [http://www.castlerealm.com/library/submacho.shtml Submission vs. Masochism by jade] ([http://www.castlerealm.com/ castelream] is generall a good site to look over)<br />
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[[Category: BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Slave
Slave
2005-12-29T22:03:23Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>==Gender==<br />
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The term '''slave''' is gender-independent. In English, if a slave's gender must be indicated, use a phrase like "female slave" or "male slave", or the common compound terms [[slave-girl]] or [[slave-boy]]. Saves can be male or female and of any [[sexual orientation]]. Some male slaves are 'sissified' - i.e. they like to be treated in a traditionally feminine manner.<br />
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==Casual Usage and Variation==<br />
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Some people in a relationship enjoy the psychological impact of calling their partner ''slave'' or having their partner call them ''slave''. Such usage is not by itself an indication that they are a slave any more than calling a partner 'bitch' indicates that they are a female dog.<br />
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The term ''slave'' is widely used, as it has a certain self-affirming weight. The difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. There is considerable debate over the exact definition of "''slave''".<br />
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==Being Owned==<br />
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'''Slave''' is a term often used to conote a submissive or servile partner in a [[Master/Slave]] relationship. Such a person could also be a [[masochist]] or "[[Bottom (BDSM)|bottom]]" but this is not always the case. <br />
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The slave has usually given the right for their [[owner]] to exercise authority over them in some sense, within a relationship that may extend to a full time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Connotatively it refers to a person who has surrendered their personal property and freedoms and become the property or chattel of their owner or [[Master]]. Strictly speaking, to be a slave, one must be owned but many people searching for an owner will call themselves "slave" as an indication of the position they are hoping to eventually have.<br />
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It should be noted that the relationship is strictly [[Informed consent|consensual]], and whether purely symbolic or due to a state of psychological [[Enslavement]], no legal ownership is involved.<br />
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==Contracts==<br />
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Some people draw up "[[Contracts|slave contracts]]" that define the relationship, but these usually have no legal weight and are not intended to be used in court. <br />
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After signing a slave contract, many people celebrate the commitment with a "[[Collar|collaring]] ceremony", which can be simple or elaborate and friends are usually invited. The slave then wears a "[[Collar|collar]]", which symbolizes their status. The collar may be an actual piece of neckwear, or may be a bracelet or other piece of jewelry that symbolizes their slavery. Some collars are not removed until the relationship is disolved, although some slaves have a "formal" and a "subdued" collar for work and [[vanilla]] situations.<br />
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==External Citations==<br />
*[http://www.enslavement.org.uk/soyouwant So you want to be a slave: the Realities]<br />
*[http://www.takeninhand.com/node/247 Could you be a slave, owned, property?]<br />
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==Personal Experiences==<br />
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*[[Slave - Personal Experiences]]<br />
*External : [http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/TPE/to_be_a_slave.htm To be a slave]<br />
*External : [http://www.takeninhand.com/node/787 My life, my choice]<br />
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==See Also==<br />
* [[Slavery]]<br />
* [[BDSM Roles]]<br />
* [[Sub]]<br />
* [[Bottom (BDSM)|Bottom]]<br />
* [[Submissive#noun|Submissive]]<br />
* [[Contracts|Slave contracts]]<br />
* [[Consensual-nonconsent]]<br />
* [[Domination and submission]]<br />
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[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_enslavement
Internal enslavement
2005-12-29T22:02:53Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>== Ineternal Enslavement ==<br />
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The Ineternal Enslavement website aims to develop practical techniques which use detailed examination of a female slave's thoughts, emotions and past experiences to establish and maintain a solid and inescapable state of ownership. <br />
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== External Links ==<br />
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[[http://www.enslavement.org.uk/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/]]<br />
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== See Also ==<br />
[[Slave]]<br><br />
[[Slavery]]<br />
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[[Category:Website]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_enslavement
Internal enslavement
2005-12-29T22:02:40Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>== Ineternal Enslavement ==<br />
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The Ineternal Enslavement website aims to develop practical techniques which use detailed examination of a female slave's thoughts, emotions and past experiences to establish and maintain a solid and inescapable state of ownership. <br />
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== External Links ==<br />
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[[http://www.enslavement.org.uk/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/]]<br />
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== See Also ==<br />
[[Slave]]<br />
[[Slavery]]<br />
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[[Category:Website]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_enslavement
Internal enslavement
2005-12-28T22:16:33Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
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<div>== Ineternal Enslavement ==<br />
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The Ineternal Enslavement website aims to develop practical techniques which use detailed examination of a female slave's thoughts, emotions and past experiences to establish and maintain a solid and inescapable state of ownership. <br />
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== External Links ==<br />
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[[Slavery]]<br />
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ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Contract
Contract
2005-12-27T17:16:48Z
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<div>D/s '''contracts''' are a way of defining the nature and limits of a relationship and are not intended to carry legal force.<br />
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This kind of contract is a controversial area of the [[Domination and submission|D/s]] [[lifestyle]]. Some like the additional structure and surety it provides, some feel it is too cold and restrictive.<br />
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In general, a contract is a binding agreement (not necessarily legally) between two consenting adults who have negotiated between themselves a list of wants or desires in their lifestyle as it pertains to [[BDSM]]. This is usually done between a [[Master]] and their [[slave]] and is often compared to a [[vanilla]] prenuptual agreement. <br />
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It is important to point out that having a contract does not create the legal assumption of [[consent]], but is used as a tool between two consenting individuals agreeing to be bound personally via this contract. You should always investigate whether your local government accepts these types of contracts or not. <br />
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The possible topics negotiated in contracts are endless, and are based upon the [[limits]] of both the [[Dominant]] and the [[submissive]]. <br />
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==Legality==<br />
Note that the kind of contract discussed here has no legal standing: they are only an agreement between [[Informed consent|consenting]] people. <br />
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[[Slave]] contracts are rarely legally binding and in some countries, the possession of a [[Master/slave]] contract may be illegal. For this reason, it is advisable to either start such a contract with a statement that no legal intent is implied or intended, or to have the contract checked out by a qualified legal adviser.<br />
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There are some contracts that may assist in formalising, enacting or enabling of a [[Master/slave]] relationship which might, individually, be legal but they are not discussed here.<br />
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==Period==<br />
Slave contracts are sometimes negotiated for a specific period of time &mdash; such as one year but longer and shorter terms are possible &mdash; while others are lifetime contracts. Where the contract is in effect continuously, the relationship may be referred to as "[[24/7]]". The limits of the slave contract can vary widely and extend into various areas of BDSM and otherwise vanilla life.<br />
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People usually only enter into a [[Master/slave]] contract after they have known and [[Play|played]] with each other for some time, often several years. Sometimes a contract is used to initiate a relationship.<br />
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==Styles of contract==<br />
For those who feel that writing down the contractual obligations of the partners can help their [[power exchange]] relationship, there are three main ways to consider doing this that have worked for other people. There are other ways to do it of course but none that have proven themselves over a long period of time.<br />
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===Single stage (simple) contract===<br />
Laying out the obligations and duties on both sides. This defines the balance of [[power exchange]] at the time and leaves open any decrease or increase in power exchange, though it might refer to an intent.<br />
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===Time-controlled, or staged, contract===<br />
This defines the obligations and duties each will assume at certain points along their agreed path. Normally, the defined level of [[power exchange]] starts as a simple structured definition of the relationship at the time. The contract specifies the furthest level of power exchange the parties think they could ever be comfortable with and what the duties and obligations shall be at that time. In between are a number of stages, normally between two and four, with each step mapped out. The level of power exchange is normally increased over time, though I am aware of one where the final stage was a required dissolution of the relationship. The timing of when the contractual stages come into force are not usually in the contract. Instead, it is up to the [[submissive|submissive(s)]] to state to the [[dominant]] that they are ready for the next stage (thus giving [[Informed consent|consent]]) and for the dominant to then inform the [[submissive]] when the next stage will come into effect (thus retaining [[Dominance|control]]).<br />
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===Several contracts used in stages===<br />
Defining stages of [[power exchange]] over time. The series of staged contracts can be written out in a similar way to having a single, time-controlled contract but normally the final stage is not so well defined, if at all. Each time a contract is agreed, the NEXT contract is prepared, so that both parties not only know the level of power exchange they must meet now, at a minimum, but (as with the single time-controlled contract) understand the objective for the next stage and so will strive to meet it. Normally, only when the parties are happy they are actually living the contract for the next stage, will they both then adopt it, after discussion and drawing up a further contract or deciding that they have gone as far as they wish down the path of power exchange.<br />
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==Common Clauses==<br />
There are many sample contracts available on the Internet. There is probably not one of them that should be used as-is for a long-term, real-life relationship. When drawing up a personal contact, a couple might want to consider:<br />
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;Health<br />
:The obligations to ensure, or improve, the health of oneself and of the partner.<br />
;Safety<br />
:What safeguards are put in place for the slave, both during the relationship and upon demise of the relationship or of the owner.<br />
;Sexuality<br />
:To who or what, as well as when and how, is the slave to be available.<br />
;Openness<br />
:Is the nature of the relationship to be discreet or open and obvious to the public, work colleagues, family etc.<br />
;Dependants<br />
:What provisions are made for any dependants, either existing or created.<br />
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:The nature and extent of control and the means (if restricted in any way) for the owner to enforce the control.<br />
;Finance<br />
:How pre-existing wealth, as well as income subsequent to the contract, are to be handled.<br />
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== Example of a Complicated Contract ==<br />
The following is an example of a very complicated (but specific) contract, taken from many different sources both from books and websites, shown here to aid in the creation of your own personalized contract. Obviously, [[negotiation]] of your own [[limits]] prior to creating this or any other contract should be done.<br />
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CONTRACT<br />
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1. I agree and accept willingly that, once I enter into the this Contract, I agree to please my [[Master]] to the best of my ability, and I understand and accept that I now exist solely for the pleasure of my Master, to be trained, disciplined and punished if and when my Master deems it necessary.<br />
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2. My Master has agreed to not inflict any physical harm upon my body that would require the attention of anyone outside of our relationship, and has thoughtfully agreed that no discipline, training or punishment shall take place if he has consumed any alcohol or any drug which would thus impair his ability to keep me from any physical or mental or emotional harm. <br />
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3. My Master and I understand and agree that I hold veto power over any command given by my Master, at which time I may rightfully refuse to obey that command, but only under these specific circumstances which my Master and I have agreed upon:<br />
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a. Where a command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution.<br />
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b. Where said command may cause extreme damage to my life, such as losing my job, causing family stress, etc.<br />
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c. Where said command may cause permanent bodily harm. <br />
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d. Where said command may cause psychological trauma.<br />
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e. Where said command is issued in a public place that was not agreed upon beforehand, and reveals to anyone else our relationship. <br />
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f. Where said command is issued during a time that my Master has consumed any drug or alcohol, thus impairing his ability to keep me from harm.<br />
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4. I agree to accept any punishment, discipline or training regimen my master decides to inflict upon me, whether earned or not, whether physical or mental or emotional, without hesitation. <br />
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5. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that [[punishment]], [[discipline]], and/or [[training]], shall not involve any of the following, defined hereby as "Abuse":<br />
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a. Drawing or release of blood.<br />
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b. Burning or mutilation of my body in any way.<br />
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c. Drastic loss of circulation.<br />
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d. Internal bleeding or complications.<br />
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e. Loss of consciousness, hearing, sight, smell, touch or taste.<br />
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f. Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, sunlight and/or warmth, for extended periods of time. <br />
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g. Forcing the consumtion of any illegal drug in any form at any time. <br />
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6. My Master and I have also agreed that because my body now belongs to my Master, he shall immediately undertake the responsibility of protecting my body not only from temporary harm as stated directly above, but also permanent bodily harm. <br />
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7. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment, discipline and/or training shall not involve any of the following, hereby defined as "Permanent Bodily Harm":<br />
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a. Death<br />
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b. Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones. <br />
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c. Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave. <br />
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d. Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave. <br />
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e. Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave. <br />
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f. Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.<br />
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8. My Master and I have also agreed that because my mind now belongs to my Master, he shall immediately undertake the responsibility of protecting my mind from permanent harm. <br />
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9. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment, discipline, and/or training, shall not involve any of the following, hereby defined as "Permanent Mental Harm":<br />
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a. Formal brainwashing or hypnosis sessions, unless expressly agreed upon by the slave, and then only by a third party trained professional. <br />
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b. Electric shock to temples or any other mind altering application of force or energy. <br />
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c. Any mind altering drugs of any kind.<br />
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d. Sleep, food, sunlight or other forms of deprivation or neglect specifically designed to break down my mental capacity in any way. <br />
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10. I am aware that as a slave, I will be required to maintain a positive outlook and have correct thinking as such, and my Master may assist me with that in any way he sees fit.<br />
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11. My Master and I have agreed that at any time I may utilize a "Safe Word", and that whatever punishment, discipline, or training that is happening at that time shall immediately and without hesitation cease, and that time shall be called a "Safe Period", wherein the following rules shall apply: <br />
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a. During any Safe Period, my Master and I shall resolve any issues before continuing any punishment, discipline or training. <br />
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b. I cannot use a Safe Word for no reason, and must supply a specific reason each time. <br />
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c. No punishments, discipline or training will take place during a Safe Period and I shall be free to express my concerns, and speak freely without fear of harm or punishment. <br />
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d. I understand and willingly accept, however, that the I will continue to address my Master with respect and love at all times and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time. <br />
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e. There is no limit to the amount of times during any given period the Safe Word may be utilized, and thusly, Safe Periods. <br />
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12. My Master and I have agreed that I may ask for a "Free Period" to express my concerns, to speak freely and without fear of harm or punishment. The following rules shall apply at all times:<br />
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a. These shall occur only once per day, and only if requested by Master or I. <br />
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b. They shall never last more than one hour, unless my Master wishes it to continue past that time. <br />
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c. They are not cumulative. <br />
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d. My Master has complete control over when these Free Periods shall take place, but has agreed that they shall take place on the same day that I request it. <br />
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e. There will be no punishment, discipline or training applied during Free Periods. <br />
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13. I understand and willingly accept, however, that I will continue to address my Master with respect and love at all times and that deviations from this rule are subject to punishment at a later time.<br />
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14. For clarification purposes only, the Safe Period is a time that I request to cease all actions immediately, and the Free Period is a time that I request that my Master schedules when he sees fit at some point at his discretion during that same day. <br />
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15. I accept and agree to not take any other Master or lover, or to be sexual or submissive to any other person, without the express and explicit direction and command of my Master, and I understand to do so would result in extreme punishment and possible termination of this contract. <br />
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16. My Master has agreed that he shall take no other slave, without considering my emotional response to such actions first, and acting accordingly. <br />
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17. My Master has agreed that he will not upset my emotional balance or ignore me over another slave at any time. <br />
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18. My Master and I have agreed that he shall never under any circumstances, give me to another master, for any reason whatsoever, unless the guidelines of this contract are wholeheartedly followed by that master at all times and without exception, and it will be my Master's sole responsibility to determine if this is the case, and I agree and will accept my Master's decision in all respects to this and trust his decisions unwaveringly, as my Master has agreed that a breach in contract of any other master would also be considered a breach in contract of my Master as well.<br />
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19. My Master and I have agreed that all physical evidence of my slavery to my Master shall be kept in strictest secrecy, except where my Master and I have agreed otherwise. <br />
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20. My Master and I have agreed that any alterations to this contract will be printed and signed and attached as addendum to this original contract before said addendum is enforced, and that it will not be necessary to include any edicts or commands or rules, etc, put forth by my Master into this contract.<br />
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21. I agree to give all of my worldly possessions to my Master, to give my physical body to my Master completely and without exception, and to pleasure my Master as he requests and as often as he requests. <br />
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22. I understand and accept willingly that my Master may punish me, command me, train me, and love me how my Master sees fit, at any time, any place, under any circumstance. <br />
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23. My Master and I have agreed that Private Rules of Conduct shall be created and posted in the house which we reside, in a private place not for display to the public or unannounced visitors, and that it will be my responsibility to always know any changes to any rules of conduct set forth and follow them explicitly and without exception, that my Master may change these rules of conduct at any time, without notice, and does not need to post them in order for me to follow them, and that these rules are to govern my actions within the confines of my Master's house. <br />
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24. My Master and I have agreed that publicly, we shall both conduct ourselves in such a manner as to not call attention to our Master and slave relationship, that I will defer to my Master at all times in public, and shall call him by his proper name when appropriate, and that my Master has agreed that only persons we have both agreed upon shall know about our relationship and/or contract. <br />
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25. Parties or gatherings specifically created for other Masters and slaves shall not be considered public places, our participation in such parties will be voluntary to both parties beforehand, during these gatherings I shall abide by all rules, edicts, and commands of my Master, just as if we were in private, with no exceptions. <br />
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26. If, during a party or gathering specifically created for other Masters and slaves, my Master wishes me to participate in any way, with another slave or Master, he has graciously agreed to discuss this with me beforehand and make such requests in these situations with my acceptance beforehand.<br />
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27. I agree and willingly accept my duties as slave. <br />
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28. I shall speak of my Master in terms of love, respect, and adoration at all times, I will address him at all times as "Sir" or "Master", or however else he sees fit, and I shall abide by all items set forth in this contract, as well as any future edicts, commands or orders to the best of my ability, and understand there may be adverse consequences should I not carry out my Master's requests or follow his rules to his satisfaction.<br />
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29. My Master has granted me the freedom to to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by this contract, or by later edict of my Master, and all rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to my Master, and He may exercise them as He chooses. <br />
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30. My Master and I have agreed that no part of this contract is intended to interfere with my career, my Master wishes me to work hard and honestly, in general, and to conduct myself in a manner calculated to bring honor and respect to both of us. <br />
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31. My Master has graciously agreed, during periods of work, that I am permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary for work, and during periods of work, or if at home, I may answer the telephone, if necessary, and discuss business without the express permission of my Master. <br />
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32. My Master and I have agreed that for these reasons only do I have the right to terminate this contract immediately, and with no recourse to myself:<br />
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a. Abuse, as outlined above in section 5a-g, either intentional or accidental, or as a direct result from consuming alcohol or drugs. <br />
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b. Permanent bodily harm, either intentional or accidental, or as a direct result from consuming alcohol or drugs, as outlined above in section 7a-f. <br />
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c. Permanent mental harm, either intentional or accidental, or as a direct result from consuming alcohol or drugs, as outlined above in section 9a-d.<br />
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d. Breach of this contract by another Master, by charge of my Master, or as a direct result from consuming alcohol or drugs, as outlined above in section 18. <br />
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e. Exposed evidence of my slavery as outlined above in section 19.<br />
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f. Any addendums further agreed upon by my Master and I that are attached to this contract and signed by both parties will be considered as part of this contract as well. <br />
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33. Should any situations occur as outlined in section 32a-f, and I should still continue to want to uphold this contract in full, my Master and I shall put in writing what occurred as well as my decision to continue this contract, and that will be attached to this contract and signed by both of us, unless my Master wishes the contract ended at that time, because of said situation. <br />
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34. My Master and I have agreed that my Master may choose to end this contract at any time, and for any reason, without explanation.<br />
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35. This contract has no preset time limit and shall not end, except due to a specific reason noted in Section <br />
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36. I have read and fully understand this contract, and am entering into this contract under my own free will. <br />
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37. I have not been coerced in any way to enter into this contract.<br />
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38. By signing below, I agree to accept and obey all preceding rules without question, as well as any rules my Master may choose to issue at a later date, and I gratefully and willingly consign my body, mind, soul and worldly possesions to my Master, for His pleasure and use any way he sees fit. <br />
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I humbly request his acceptance of this contract in full. <br />
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Slave:__________________________ Date: __________<br />
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I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, including her body, mind, soul, and worldly possessions, and to care for her to the best of my ability. I shall provide for her security and well-being and command her, train her, and punish her as a slave, soberly, and as I see fit. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall ever come to her as long as she is mine, and this contract is in effect. <br />
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I accept My slave's desire to serve Me more fully, and take responsibility for her well-being, training, and discipline, to more perfectly serve My will. <br />
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Master:__________________________ Date: __________<br />
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I hereby witness this contract, that both parties have entered into such contract willingly and lovingly, and free of coercion or fear.<br />
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Witness:__________________________ Date: __________<br />
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== Example of an Extremely Simple Contract ==<br />
Where partners are very trusting of each other, or very experienced in [[BDSM]] a simplified contract may work better. <br />
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CONTRACT: <br />
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This contract between ___________, the slave, and __________, the Master is as follows: <br />
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1. Nothing that will permanently harm the slave shall ever exist, either physically, mentally or emotionally, from anything Master does within the [[lifestyle]]. <br />
2. Neither partner will share other partners without [[consent]]. <br />
3. slave will do everything Master says, without limits EXCEPT FOR [[scat]], [[watersports]], [[necrophilia]], [[pedophilia]], and anything illegal, so long as these first two rules are followed. <br />
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Master<br />
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==Celebration==<br />
Once a slave contract has gone through it's various drafts and is finally agreed upon, some celebrate the event with a "[[collaring]] ceremony", in which the local [[D/s]] community is invited to witness the commitment made in the document. Some ceremonies become quite elaborate, and can be as involved as a wedding or any similar ritual.<br />
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==See Also==<br />
*[[BDSM and the law]]<br />
* [[Slave]]<br />
* [[http://www.libertariannation.org/a/f24m1.html www.libertariannation.com]]<br />
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==External Links==<br />
*Sample [http://erosbizar.homestead.com/slavecontractmain.html Slave Contracts & Rules]<br />
*Sample [http://www.cufsmaine.org/BDSM%20Contracts.htm BDSM Contracts]<br />
*[http://www.cuffs.com/stories/phil/slavecontract.htm Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract]<br />
*[http://www.thelouisvillechannel.com/news/1249342/detail.html Pair Arrested For Sex Slave Contract]<br />
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== Other Contract Examples ==<br />
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* [[http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/TPE/slave_contract.htm www.albanypowerexchange.com]]<br />
* [[http://www.io.com/~ambrosio/dating/contract02.html www.io.com]]<br />
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ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Gag
Gag
2005-12-27T13:37:16Z
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<div>===Overview===<br />
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A gag is a device designed to cover or be inserted into the mouth to prevent the wearer from talking or crying out. in [[BDSM]] gags have a very strong symbolic value. They prevent the [[submissive]] from talking or communicating with the [[dominant]] in anything but the most basic way. This enhances the loss of control that the sub experiences in a scene which in turn can magnify the [[Domination and submission|D/S]] dynamic between the players. The gag is also an invasion the sub's body which is another strong D/S signal. For many fetishists, the Freudian symbolism is part of the bondage ritual--the mouth is very intimate space, and controlling verbal control as well as the movements of the tongue and jaw can be very erotic for some subs. <br />
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Note: Gags are profoundly erotic, but can KILL someone who is left unattended. Most conventional wisdom dictates that this type of bondage be used with supervision and care. Practitioners of self-bondage need to be particularly careful with gag use. <br />
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There are a number of different designs of gags which are used in BDSM play.<br />
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[[Image:gags_ball_01.JPG|thumbnail|right|Ball gag]]<br />
===Ball Gags===<br />
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A ball gag, as the name suggests, is a ball which is forced into the sub's mouth and then held in place by a stap running through it and then tied behind the back of the neck. Ball gags are the most common type of gag used in BDSM play. They are very effective at preventing the sub from talking. When strapped in tightly they are almost impossible to spit out. Visually they look very dramatic, distorting the face and forcing the mouth open. It forces the submissive to feel very vulnerable, and due to the strain it places on the mouth and jaw, it is impossible to forget that the power of speech is being denied. Ball gags can be handmade, but commercial versions are readily available at various price points, from plastic balls with holes for breathing pre-drilled in, to soft "jelly" balls that conform more to the interior of the wearer's mouth. (The jelly variety is better for long-term use; a ball-gag with breathing holes is mandatory for any sub with a history of asthma or other breathing problems.) <br />
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A less common design is to have the ball attached to a leather plate which covers the mouth and is held in place by a strap. Gags of this design are less effective than the tradition ball gag as the sub is more able to spit the gag out. They also tend to be less effective in silencing the sub. They do, however, work very well with [[hood]]s as they require a much smaller mouth opening than a traditional ball gag and the hood helps keep the gag in place.<br />
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Ball gags come in different sizes to suit different mouth sizes. Using the correct sized gag with greatly enhance the experience of wearing it. Too small a gag will be ineffective at silencing the sub and the visual impact will be diminished; using too big a gag will put the sub's jaw under strain which will quickly become painful. There is also a real risk that the sub might choke or retch.<br />
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[[Image:gags_bit_01.JPG|thumbnail|right|Bit gag]]<br />
===Bit Gags===<br />
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A bit gag is based on a horses bit and is often used in [[pony play]]. As a tool for silence a sub it is much less effetive than a ball gag howevr the visual impact is as great (some might say greater) than a ball gag. The risks of wearing a bit gag are much less than a ball gag since it does not obstruct the airway.<br />
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Bit gags are also valuable tools for humiliation exercises, since they tend to cause the wearer to drool freely. <br />
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[[Image:gags_penis_01.JPG|thumbnail|right|Penis gag]]<br />
===Penis Gags===<br />
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A penis gag is a gag based on a rubber penis or dildo (usually only a few cm long) which is attached to a leather plate (to prevent it being swallowed) and forced into the sub's mouth. Particular care must be taken when playing with penis gags; because of their size, they tend to get pushed further back in the mouth. This means that there is a much greater risk of the wearer choking. Some in the BDSM community suggest that penis gags are better as an idea than in practice. They can move around the mouth much more than a ball gag and that makes them less effective in gagging the submissive and making it easier for the sub to spit the gag out. They can be made more effective by using them in conjunction with a [[hood]] or a ring gag.<br />
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There are also gags that feature a dildo/penis attachment on the outside of the face plate, so that the submissive can be used by play-partners as a very literal sex toy. Care should be used in this type of scene--broken teeth or facial injuries can halt a scene in a very distressing way. <br />
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[[Image:gags_ring_01.JPG|thumbnail|right|Ring gag]]<br />
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===Ring Gags===<br />
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Ring gags are similar in concept to a ball gag but replace the ball with a metal ring which forces the subs mouth open. In BDSM play the main reason for doing this is to make it impossible for the sub to refuse to accept any thing place in his/her mouth (usually someones penis!). This makes ring gags particually effective in [[scene]]s that have a strong [[Domination and submission|D/S]] element.<br />
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Ring gags come in various dimensions and sizes, and most are measured according to the inner diameter, not the actual size of the ring itself. Most come wrapped in leather or rubber--metal alone can chip or damage a sub's teeth. <br />
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[[Image:Gags inflatable.jpg|thumbnail|right|Inflatable gag]]<br />
===Inflatable Gags===<br />
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An inflatable gag is a rubber balloon (often attached to a leather plate to hold it in place) with a valve and a pump. Once inserted into the subs mouth it is inflated to fill the subs mouth in much the same way as a ball gag. Inflatable gags are very effective in silencing the wearer but they also block the airway and for this reason the sub should never be left alone while wearing it.<br />
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There are myriad other ways to silence a submissive--lingerie casually stuffed in the mouth, with care taken that the fabric doesn't obstruct the airway; medical tape, applied in layers; cleave gags wound around the submissive's head very tightly. Many BDSM practitioners, however, prefer the stringent look and feel of leather mouth gags. <br />
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===Funnel gag===<br />
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A funnel gag consists of a funnel with a tube leading from its spout into the mouth, usually with straps to hold the tube in. Such a gag is used to force the bound person to drink something (often the dominant's urine). <br />
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Warning: It is very easy to choke during such forced drinking<br />
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===See Also===<br />
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*[[Head harness]]<br />
*[[Hoods]]<br />
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[[Category:Bondage]]<br />
[[category:Sex Toys]]</div>
ViciousLover
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Abbreviations
2005-12-26T19:04:27Z
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<div>{| border=1 cellpadding=1 cellspacing=0 style="text-align:left"<br />
|- style="background-color:#F0F0F0;text-align:center;font-weight:bold;font-color:#000000;"<br />
|Characters||Meaning<br />
|- <br />
|<g>||grin<br />
|- <br />
|:-)||A "smiley" face (sideways); there are lots of variations<br />
|- <br />
|[[24/7]]||Full-time. Also seen as 24/7/365.<br />
|- <br />
|AC/DC||[[Bisexual]]<br />
|- <br />
|AFAIK||As Far As I Know<br />
|- <br />
|AFAICT||As Far As I Can Tell<br />
|- <br />
|[[AIDS]]||Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|AKA||Also Known As<br />
|- <br />
|ALMS||[[GoogleGroups:alt.lifestyle.master.slave|alt.lifestyle.master.slave]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|AP||Age Play<br />
|- <br />
|[[APE]]||Absolute Power Exchange<br />
|- <br />
|ASAP||As Soon As Possible<br />
|- <br />
|ASB||[[GoogleGroups:Alt.Sex.Bondage|Alt.Sex.Bondage]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ASF*||[[GoogleGroups:alt.sex.fetish|alt.sex.fetish.*]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ASL or a/s/l||Age? Sex? Location? (impolite Messenger query) [from marketing]<br />
|- <br />
|AT||Animal Training<br />
|- <br />
|ATB||[[GoogleGroups:alt.talk.bestiality|Alt.Talk.Bestiality]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ATM||At The Moment<br />
|- <br />
|ATSL||Along The Same Line<br />
|- <br />
|B&D or BD||[[Bondage]] and [[Discipline]]<br />
|- <br />
|B/B||Boy/Boy<br />
|- <br />
|B/G||Boy/Girl<br />
|- <br />
|BBB||[[Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar]]<br />
|- <br />
|BBIAB||Be Back In A Bit<br />
|- <br />
|[[BBW]]||Big Beautiful Woman (i.e. overweight)<br />
|- <br />
|[[BDSM]]||[[Bondage]] & [[Discipline]], [[Domination and submission|Dominance & Submission]], [[Sadomasochism|Sado-Masochism]]<br />
|- <br />
|BF||Boy Friend<br />
|- <br />
|BFN||Bye For Now<br />
|- <br />
|BJ||Blow Job ([[fellatio]])<br />
|- <br />
|BPD||Borderline Personality Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|BRB||Be Right Back - used in instant messaging<br />
|- <br />
|BS||Big Smile ''or'' Bull Shit - worthwhile knowing which!<br />
|- <br />
|BSTS||Better Safe than sorry<br />
|- <br />
|BT||Ball Torture (see also CBT)<br />
|- <br />
|BTDT||Been There, Done That<br />
|- <br />
|BTW||By The Way<br />
|- <br />
|CB(C&B)||Chastity Belt / Cock and Ball<br />
|- <br />
|[[CBT]]||Cock and Ball Torture/Training<br />
|- <br />
|CCK||[[Coffee, Cake and Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|CD||Cross Dresser<br />
|- <br />
|CFIDS||Chronic Fatigue Immune Deficiency Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|CFS||Chronic Fatigue Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|CIS||Complete and Irrevocable Submission<br />
|- <br />
|CNC||Consensual Non Consent<br />
|- <br />
|CP||Corporal Punishment<br />
|- <br />
|CT||Cock Torture (see also CBT)<br />
|- <br />
|CTS||Carpal Tunnel Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|D&S or D/s||Dominance and Submission <br />
|- <br />
|DS||Domestic Service (also sometimes same as D/s)<br />
|- <br />
|DD||[[Daddy Dom]]<br />
|- <br />
|D/D or D&D||Drug & Disease - normally on a personal as "D&D free"<br />
|- <br />
|D/O/M||[[Dom]]/[[Owner]]/[[Master]]<br />
|- <br />
|E&OE||Errors and Omissions Excluded (in other words, if there is a mistake don't blame me)<br />
|- <br />
|EC||[[Chastity Belts|Enforced Chastity]]<br />
|- <br />
|EOL||End Of Lecture or End Of Line<br />
|- <br />
|EOLT||End Of Leisure Time - time to get back to work<br />
|- <br />
|EOM||End Of Message<br />
|- <br />
|EMS||See TENS<br />
|- <br />
|EPE||Erotic [[Power exchange]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[FAQ]]||Frequently Asked Question(s) and answers<br />
|- <br />
|FITB||Fill In The Blank<br />
|- <br />
|FF||[[Fisting|Fist Fucking]]<br />
|- <br />
|FTM||Female To Male ([[Transgender|transgendered]])<br />
|- <br />
|FTMP||For The Most Part<br />
|- <br />
|FTR||For The Record<br />
|- <br />
|FUBAR||Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition<br />
|- <br />
|FWIW||For What It's Worth...<br />
|- <br />
|FYI||For Your Information<br />
|- <br />
|G/G||Girl/Girl<br />
|- <br />
|GF||Girl Friend<br />
|- <br />
|GMTA||Great Minds Think Alike<br />
|- <br />
|GNP||Gender Neutral Pronouns, Gross National Product (context!!)<br />
|- <br />
|GS||[[Watersports|Golden Shower]]<br />
|- <br />
|GSOH||Good Sense Of Humour<br />
|- <br />
|HAND||Have A Nice Day<br />
|- <br />
|[[HIV]]||Human Immunodeficiency Virus<br />
|- <br />
|HNG||Horny Net Geek - clueless person just out for kicks<br />
|- <br />
|HOH||Head Of Household - the [[dominant]] person at home<br />
|- <br />
|HTH||Hope This/That Helps<br />
|- <br />
|HWP||Height and Weight Proprotional (i.e.: "normal" build)<br />
|- <br />
|IAC||In Any Case<br />
|- <br />
|IAE||In Any Event<br />
|- <br />
|IANAL||I Am Not A Lawyer<br />
|- <br />
|IDK||I Don't Know (also FIIK)<br />
|- <br />
|IM||Instant Message (like [http://www.icq.com/ ICQ], [http://www.aol.co.uk/aim/ AOL], [http://imagine-msn.com/messenger/ MSN] or [http://messenger.yahoo.com/ Yahoo])<br />
|- <br />
|IMHO||In My Humble Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IMNSHO||In My Not So Humble Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IMO||In My Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IOU||I owe you<br />
|- <br />
|IOW||In Other Words<br />
|- <br />
|IRC||Internet Relay Chat - see IM<br />
|- <br />
|IRT||In Reply To, In Regards To<br />
|- <br />
|ISO||In Search Of<br />
|- <br />
|ISP||Internet Service Provider<br />
|- <br />
|ISTM||It Seems To Me<br />
|- <br />
|ISTR||I Seem To Recall<br />
|- <br />
|ISO||In Search Of (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|ITMT||In The MeanTime<br />
|- <br />
|JK||Just Kidding<br />
|- <br />
|KH||Key Holder<br />
|- <br />
|KHYF||Know How You Feel<br />
|- <br />
|L8R||Later<br />
|- <br />
|LDR||Long Distance Relationship<br />
|- <br />
|LDU||''Leather/Denim/Uniform'' fetish - a characteristically masculine style of appearance<br />
|- <br />
|LFF||[[London Fetish Fair]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[LGBTQ]]||[[Lesbian]], [[Gay]], [[Bisexual]], [[Transgender]] and Questioning<br />
|- <br />
|LMAO||Laughing My Ass Off - also see ROFL<br />
|- <br />
|LOL||Laughing Out Loud - also see LOL<br />
|- <br />
|LTNS||Long Time No See!<br />
|- <br />
|LTR||Long Term Relationship<br />
|- <br />
|M||Could be [[Master (BDSM)|Master]], especially if upper-case or [[masochist]], often lower-case.<br />
|- <br />
|MPD||Multiple Personality Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|M/s||[[Master/slave]]<br />
|- <br />
|MYOB||Mind Your Own Business<br />
|- <br />
|NC||Non-Consensual<br />
|- <br />
|NG||News Group / No Good<br />
|- <br />
|NIMBY||Not In My Back Yard<br />
|- <br />
|NL||New Leather<br />
|- <br />
|NLA||National Leather Association (USA)<br />
|- <br />
|NP||No Problem<br />
|- <br />
|NS||Non-Smoker (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|OHAC||Own House And Car (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|OOC||Out of Character / Curiosity<br />
|- <br />
|OT||Off Topic / Occupational Therapist<br />
|- <br />
|OTK||Over The Knee - a lovely position to be [[Spanking|spanked]]<br />
|- <br />
|OTOH||On The Other Hand<br />
|- <br />
|OTT||Over The Top (exaggerated)<br />
|- <br />
|OTW||One True Way (usually sarcasm)<br />
|- <br />
|P&M||Posted & Mailed<br />
|- <br />
|PA||[[Prince Albert]] (type of piercing) ''also'' Photo Appreciated (in personal advert/profile)<br />
|- <br />
|PDA||Public Displays of Affection<br />
|- <br />
|PE||[[Power exchange|Power Exchange]] (see APE and TPE)<br />
|- <br />
|PITA||Pain In The Ass<br />
|- <br />
|PMFJI||Pardon Me (For) Jumping In<br />
|- <br />
|POA||Power Of Attorney<br />
|- <br />
|POV||Point Of View<br />
|- <br />
|PS||PostScript<br />
|- <br />
|PSA||Public Service Announcement<br />
|- <br />
|PTSS/PTSD||Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome / Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|QED||Quod Est Demonstrandum (that which was to be demonstrated)<br />
|- <br />
|R/L or RL||Real Life<br />
|- <br />
|[[RACK]]||Risk-Aware Consensual Kink<br />
|- <br />
|ROFL||Rolling On the Floor Laughing (there are variations)<br />
|- <br />
|ROTFL||see ROFL<br />
|- <br />
|RT||Real-Time - see also RL<br />
|- <br />
|RTFM||Read the F*g Manual!<br />
|- <br />
|RW||Real World<br />
|- <br />
|SAM||Smart Assed Masochist<br />
|- <br />
|SCA||Society for Createive Anachronism<br />
|- <br />
|SCB||[[GoogleGroups:soc.culture.bondage|soc.culture.bondage]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|SD||Sensory Deprivation<br />
|- <br />
|SM or S&M||[[Sadomasochism|Sado-Masochism]] or Sadism & Masochism<br />
|- <br />
|SNAFU||Situation Normal - All Fucked Up<br />
|- <br />
|SNAG||Sensitive New Age Guy<br />
|- <br />
|SO||Significant Other<br />
|- <br />
|SOW||Speaking Of Which<br />
|- <br />
|[[SSC]]||[[Safe, sane, and consensual|Safe, Sane, Consensual]]<br />
|- <br />
|SSS||[[GoogleGroups:Soc.Sexuality.Spanking|Soc.Sexuality.Spanking]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|STD/STI||Sexually Transmitted Disease / .. Infection<br />
|- <br />
|SWAMP||[[South West Alternative Market & Party]]<br />
|- <br />
|TAF||That's All Folks<br />
|- <br />
|TAFN||That's All For Now<br />
|- <br />
|TANJ||There Ain't No Justice<br />
|- <br />
|TANSTAAFL||There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch<br />
|- <br />
|TBH||To Be Honest<br />
|- <br />
|TD||[[Top's Disease]] - thinking they are god<br />
|- <br />
|[[TENS]]||Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulator<br />
|- <br />
|TES||The Eulenspiegel Society ([http://www.tes.org/ website])<br />
|- <br />
|TFTB||[[Topping From The Bottom]]<br />
|- <br />
|TG||[[Transgender|Transgender ''or'' TransGendered]]<br />
|- <br />
|TIA||Thanks In Advance<br />
|- <br />
|TIC||Tongue in Cheek<br />
|- <br />
|TIH||[[Taken In Hand]]<br />
|- <br />
|TLA||Three Letter Acronym<br />
|- <br />
|TMI||Too Much Information<br />
|- <br />
|TOS||Terms Of Service<br />
|- <br />
|[[TPE]]||Total [[Power exchange|Power Exchange]]<br />
|- <br />
|TPTB||The Powers That Be<br />
|- <br />
|TS||[[TransSexual]]<br />
|- <br />
|TTBOMK||To The Best Of My Knowledge<br />
|- <br />
|TTFN||Ta Ta For Now<br />
|- <br />
|TTTO||To The Tune Of<br />
|- <br />
|TV||[[Transvestite|TransVestite]] / TeleVision<br />
|- <br />
|TY / TYVM||Thank You / Thank You Very Much<br />
|- <br />
|U&A(&LI)||Used and Abuse (and Loving It)<br />
|- <br />
|VBG||Very Big Grin<br />
|- <br />
|VWG||Very Wide Grin or Very Wicked Grin<br />
|- <br />
|Wiitwd(h)||What it is that we do (here)<br />
|- <br />
|WIIWD||See Wiitwd<br />
|- <br />
|WRT||With Respect To<br />
|- <br />
|WS||[[Watersports|Water Sports]] (see also GS)<br />
|- <br />
|WTF?||What the Fuck??<br />
|- <br />
|WYSIWYG||What You See Is What You Get<br />
|- <br />
|YKINMK||Your [[Kink]] Is Not My [[Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[YKIOK,IJNMK]]||Your [[Kink]] is OK, It's Just Not My [[Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|YMBJ||You Must Be Joking<br />
|- <br />
|YMMV||Your Mileage May Vary (i.e. I am happy for you to think otherwise)<br />
|}<br />
<br />
<br />
==Other Resources==<br />
<br />
*[http://www.mindspring.com/~frites/abbr.txt Frites' list of abbreviations used on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm]<br />
*[http://public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/dictindx.htm The Deviant's Dictionary]<br />
*[http://www.gaarde.org/acronyms/ Internet Acronyms Dictionary]<br />
[[Category:AltSex]]<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]<br />
[[Category:Fetish]]<br />
[[Category:Health]]<br />
[[Category:Other Topics]]<br />
[[Category:Sexual Techniques]]</div>
ViciousLover
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Abbreviations
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<div>{| border=1 cellpadding=1 cellspacing=0 style="text-align:left"<br />
|- style="background-color:#F0F0F0;text-align:center;font-weight:bold;font-color:black"<br />
|Characters||Meaning<br />
|- <br />
|<g>||grin<br />
|- <br />
|:-)||A "smiley" face (sideways); there are lots of variations<br />
|- <br />
|[[24/7]]||Full-time. Also seen as 24/7/365.<br />
|- <br />
|AC/DC||[[Bisexual]]<br />
|- <br />
|AFAIK||As Far As I Know<br />
|- <br />
|AFAICT||As Far As I Can Tell<br />
|- <br />
|[[AIDS]]||Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|AKA||Also Known As<br />
|- <br />
|ALMS||[[GoogleGroups:alt.lifestyle.master.slave|alt.lifestyle.master.slave]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|AP||Age Play<br />
|- <br />
|[[APE]]||Absolute Power Exchange<br />
|- <br />
|ASAP||As Soon As Possible<br />
|- <br />
|ASB||[[GoogleGroups:Alt.Sex.Bondage|Alt.Sex.Bondage]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ASF*||[[GoogleGroups:alt.sex.fetish|alt.sex.fetish.*]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ASL or a/s/l||Age? Sex? Location? (impolite Messenger query) [from marketing]<br />
|- <br />
|AT||Animal Training<br />
|- <br />
|ATB||[[GoogleGroups:alt.talk.bestiality|Alt.Talk.Bestiality]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|ATM||At The Moment<br />
|- <br />
|ATSL||Along The Same Line<br />
|- <br />
|B&D or BD||[[Bondage]] and [[Discipline]]<br />
|- <br />
|B/B||Boy/Boy<br />
|- <br />
|B/G||Boy/Girl<br />
|- <br />
|BBB||[[Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar]]<br />
|- <br />
|BBIAB||Be Back In A Bit<br />
|- <br />
|[[BBW]]||Big Beautiful Woman (i.e. overweight)<br />
|- <br />
|[[BDSM]]||[[Bondage]] & [[Discipline]], [[Domination and submission|Dominance & Submission]], [[Sadomasochism|Sado-Masochism]]<br />
|- <br />
|BF||Boy Friend<br />
|- <br />
|BFN||Bye For Now<br />
|- <br />
|BJ||Blow Job ([[fellatio]])<br />
|- <br />
|BPD||Borderline Personality Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|BRB||Be Right Back - used in instant messaging<br />
|- <br />
|BS||Big Smile ''or'' Bull Shit - worthwhile knowing which!<br />
|- <br />
|BSTS||Better Safe than sorry<br />
|- <br />
|BT||Ball Torture (see also CBT)<br />
|- <br />
|BTDT||Been There, Done That<br />
|- <br />
|BTW||By The Way<br />
|- <br />
|CB(C&B)||Chastity Belt / Cock and Ball<br />
|- <br />
|[[CBT]]||Cock and Ball Torture/Training<br />
|- <br />
|CCK||[[Coffee, Cake and Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|CD||Cross Dresser<br />
|- <br />
|CFIDS||Chronic Fatigue Immune Deficiency Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|CFS||Chronic Fatigue Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|CIS||Complete and Irrevocable Submission<br />
|- <br />
|CNC||Consensual Non Consent<br />
|- <br />
|CP||Corporal Punishment<br />
|- <br />
|CT||Cock Torture (see also CBT)<br />
|- <br />
|CTS||Carpal Tunnel Syndrome<br />
|- <br />
|D&S or D/s||Dominance and Submission <br />
|- <br />
|DS||Domestic Service (also sometimes same as D/s)<br />
|- <br />
|DD||[[Daddy Dom]]<br />
|- <br />
|D/D or D&D||Drug & Disease - normally on a personal as "D&D free"<br />
|- <br />
|D/O/M||[[Dom]]/[[Owner]]/[[Master]]<br />
|- <br />
|E&OE||Errors and Omissions Excluded (in other words, if there is a mistake don't blame me)<br />
|- <br />
|EC||[[Chastity Belts|Enforced Chastity]]<br />
|- <br />
|EOL||End Of Lecture or End Of Line<br />
|- <br />
|EOLT||End Of Leisure Time - time to get back to work<br />
|- <br />
|EOM||End Of Message<br />
|- <br />
|EMS||See TENS<br />
|- <br />
|EPE||Erotic [[Power exchange]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[FAQ]]||Frequently Asked Question(s) and answers<br />
|- <br />
|FITB||Fill In The Blank<br />
|- <br />
|FF||[[Fisting|Fist Fucking]]<br />
|- <br />
|FTM||Female To Male ([[Transgender|transgendered]])<br />
|- <br />
|FTMP||For The Most Part<br />
|- <br />
|FTR||For The Record<br />
|- <br />
|FUBAR||Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition<br />
|- <br />
|FWIW||For What It's Worth...<br />
|- <br />
|FYI||For Your Information<br />
|- <br />
|G/G||Girl/Girl<br />
|- <br />
|GF||Girl Friend<br />
|- <br />
|GMTA||Great Minds Think Alike<br />
|- <br />
|GNP||Gender Neutral Pronouns, Gross National Product (context!!)<br />
|- <br />
|GS||[[Watersports|Golden Shower]]<br />
|- <br />
|GSOH||Good Sense Of Humour<br />
|- <br />
|HAND||Have A Nice Day<br />
|- <br />
|[[HIV]]||Human Immunodeficiency Virus<br />
|- <br />
|HNG||Horny Net Geek - clueless person just out for kicks<br />
|- <br />
|HOH||Head Of Household - the [[dominant]] person at home<br />
|- <br />
|HTH||Hope This/That Helps<br />
|- <br />
|HWP||Height and Weight Proprotional (i.e.: "normal" build)<br />
|- <br />
|IAC||In Any Case<br />
|- <br />
|IAE||In Any Event<br />
|- <br />
|IANAL||I Am Not A Lawyer<br />
|- <br />
|IDK||I Don't Know (also FIIK)<br />
|- <br />
|IM||Instant Message (like [http://www.icq.com/ ICQ], [http://www.aol.co.uk/aim/ AOL], [http://imagine-msn.com/messenger/ MSN] or [http://messenger.yahoo.com/ Yahoo])<br />
|- <br />
|IMHO||In My Humble Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IMNSHO||In My Not So Humble Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IMO||In My Opinion<br />
|- <br />
|IOU||I owe you<br />
|- <br />
|IOW||In Other Words<br />
|- <br />
|IRC||Internet Relay Chat - see IM<br />
|- <br />
|IRT||In Reply To, In Regards To<br />
|- <br />
|ISO||In Search Of<br />
|- <br />
|ISP||Internet Service Provider<br />
|- <br />
|ISTM||It Seems To Me<br />
|- <br />
|ISTR||I Seem To Recall<br />
|- <br />
|ISO||In Search Of (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|ITMT||In The MeanTime<br />
|- <br />
|JK||Just Kidding<br />
|- <br />
|KH||Key Holder<br />
|- <br />
|KHYF||Know How You Feel<br />
|- <br />
|L8R||Later<br />
|- <br />
|LDR||Long Distance Relationship<br />
|- <br />
|LDU||''Leather/Denim/Uniform'' fetish - a characteristically masculine style of appearance<br />
|- <br />
|LFF||[[London Fetish Fair]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[LGBTQ]]||[[Lesbian]], [[Gay]], [[Bisexual]], [[Transgender]] and Questioning<br />
|- <br />
|LMAO||Laughing My Ass Off - also see ROFL<br />
|- <br />
|LOL||Laughing Out Loud - also see LOL<br />
|- <br />
|LTNS||Long Time No See!<br />
|- <br />
|LTR||Long Term Relationship<br />
|- <br />
|M||Could be [[Master (BDSM)|Master]], especially if upper-case or [[masochist]], often lower-case.<br />
|- <br />
|MPD||Multiple Personality Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|M/s||[[Master/slave]]<br />
|- <br />
|MYOB||Mind Your Own Business<br />
|- <br />
|NC||Non-Consensual<br />
|- <br />
|NG||News Group / No Good<br />
|- <br />
|NIMBY||Not In My Back Yard<br />
|- <br />
|NL||New Leather<br />
|- <br />
|NLA||National Leather Association (USA)<br />
|- <br />
|NP||No Problem<br />
|- <br />
|NS||Non-Smoker (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|OHAC||Own House And Car (in personal adverts/profiles)<br />
|- <br />
|OOC||Out of Character / Curiosity<br />
|- <br />
|OT||Off Topic / Occupational Therapist<br />
|- <br />
|OTK||Over The Knee - a lovely position to be [[Spanking|spanked]]<br />
|- <br />
|OTOH||On The Other Hand<br />
|- <br />
|OTT||Over The Top (exaggerated)<br />
|- <br />
|OTW||One True Way (usually sarcasm)<br />
|- <br />
|P&M||Posted & Mailed<br />
|- <br />
|PA||[[Prince Albert]] (type of piercing) ''also'' Photo Appreciated (in personal advert/profile)<br />
|- <br />
|PDA||Public Displays of Affection<br />
|- <br />
|PE||[[Power exchange|Power Exchange]] (see APE and TPE)<br />
|- <br />
|PITA||Pain In The Ass<br />
|- <br />
|PMFJI||Pardon Me (For) Jumping In<br />
|- <br />
|POA||Power Of Attorney<br />
|- <br />
|POV||Point Of View<br />
|- <br />
|PS||PostScript<br />
|- <br />
|PSA||Public Service Announcement<br />
|- <br />
|PTSS/PTSD||Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome / Disorder<br />
|- <br />
|QED||Quod Est Demonstrandum (that which was to be demonstrated)<br />
|- <br />
|R/L or RL||Real Life<br />
|- <br />
|[[RACK]]||Risk-Aware Consensual Kink<br />
|- <br />
|ROFL||Rolling On the Floor Laughing (there are variations)<br />
|- <br />
|ROTFL||see ROFL<br />
|- <br />
|RT||Real-Time - see also RL<br />
|- <br />
|RTFM||Read the F*g Manual!<br />
|- <br />
|RW||Real World<br />
|- <br />
|SAM||Smart Assed Masochist<br />
|- <br />
|SCA||Society for Createive Anachronism<br />
|- <br />
|SCB||[[GoogleGroups:soc.culture.bondage|soc.culture.bondage]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|SD||Sensory Deprivation<br />
|- <br />
|SM or S&M||[[Sadomasochism|Sado-Masochism]] or Sadism & Masochism<br />
|- <br />
|SNAFU||Situation Normal - All Fucked Up<br />
|- <br />
|SNAG||Sensitive New Age Guy<br />
|- <br />
|SO||Significant Other<br />
|- <br />
|SOW||Speaking Of Which<br />
|- <br />
|[[SSC]]||[[Safe, sane, and consensual|Safe, Sane, Consensual]]<br />
|- <br />
|SSS||[[GoogleGroups:Soc.Sexuality.Spanking|Soc.Sexuality.Spanking]] - [[newsgroup]]<br />
|- <br />
|STD/STI||Sexually Transmitted Disease / .. Infection<br />
|- <br />
|SWAMP||[[South West Alternative Market & Party]]<br />
|- <br />
|TAF||That's All Folks<br />
|- <br />
|TAFN||That's All For Now<br />
|- <br />
|TANJ||There Ain't No Justice<br />
|- <br />
|TANSTAAFL||There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch<br />
|- <br />
|TBH||To Be Honest<br />
|- <br />
|TD||[[Top's Disease]] - thinking they are god<br />
|- <br />
|[[TENS]]||Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulator<br />
|- <br />
|TES||The Eulenspiegel Society ([http://www.tes.org/ website])<br />
|- <br />
|TFTB||[[Topping From The Bottom]]<br />
|- <br />
|TG||[[Transgender|Transgender ''or'' TransGendered]]<br />
|- <br />
|TIA||Thanks In Advance<br />
|- <br />
|TIC||Tongue in Cheek<br />
|- <br />
|TIH||[[Taken In Hand]]<br />
|- <br />
|TLA||Three Letter Acronym<br />
|- <br />
|TMI||Too Much Information<br />
|- <br />
|TOS||Terms Of Service<br />
|- <br />
|[[TPE]]||Total [[Power exchange|Power Exchange]]<br />
|- <br />
|TPTB||The Powers That Be<br />
|- <br />
|TS||[[TransSexual]]<br />
|- <br />
|TTBOMK||To The Best Of My Knowledge<br />
|- <br />
|TTFN||Ta Ta For Now<br />
|- <br />
|TTTO||To The Tune Of<br />
|- <br />
|TV||[[Transvestite|TransVestite]] / TeleVision<br />
|- <br />
|TY / TYVM||Thank You / Thank You Very Much<br />
|- <br />
|U&A(&LI)||Used and Abuse (and Loving It)<br />
|- <br />
|VBG||Very Big Grin<br />
|- <br />
|VWG||Very Wide Grin or Very Wicked Grin<br />
|- <br />
|Wiitwd(h)||What it is that we do (here)<br />
|- <br />
|WIIWD||See Wiitwd<br />
|- <br />
|WRT||With Respect To<br />
|- <br />
|WS||[[Watersports|Water Sports]] (see also GS)<br />
|- <br />
|WTF?||What the Fuck??<br />
|- <br />
|WYSIWYG||What You See Is What You Get<br />
|- <br />
|YKINMK||Your [[Kink]] Is Not My [[Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|[[YKIOK,IJNMK]]||Your [[Kink]] is OK, It's Just Not My [[Kink]]<br />
|- <br />
|YMBJ||You Must Be Joking<br />
|- <br />
|YMMV||Your Mileage May Vary (i.e. I am happy for you to think otherwise)<br />
|}<br />
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<br />
==Other Resources==<br />
<br />
*[http://www.mindspring.com/~frites/abbr.txt Frites' list of abbreviations used on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm]<br />
*[http://public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/dictindx.htm The Deviant's Dictionary]<br />
*[http://www.gaarde.org/acronyms/ Internet Acronyms Dictionary]<br />
[[Category:AltSex]]<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]<br />
[[Category:Fetish]]<br />
[[Category:Health]]<br />
[[Category:Other Topics]]<br />
[[Category:Sexual Techniques]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Talk:Fucking_machine
Talk:Fucking machine
2005-12-26T18:51:11Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>Well, there's my take on it. <br />
<br />
Anyother contributions?</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Love_bot
Love bot
2005-12-26T18:50:17Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sex_machine
Sex machine
2005-12-26T18:49:59Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Love_machine
Love machine
2005-12-26T18:49:42Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Love_bot
Love bot
2005-12-26T18:49:00Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking Machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sex_machine
Sex machine
2005-12-26T18:48:26Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking Machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Love_machine
Love machine
2005-12-26T18:48:07Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Fucking Machine]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Fucking_machine
Fucking machine
2005-12-26T18:47:29Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>[[Image:Fuckingmachine.jpg|thumb|Fucking machine from http://www.fetteredpleasures.com]] <br />
<br />
== General Terms ==<br />
Fucking machine, love machine, sex machine, love bot, and Sybian are all terms used to describe an autonomous device designed for genital or anal stimulation, for men or women. The use of a fucking machine is not gender specific, nor is it relegated to the world of BDSM. <br />
<br />
== Examples ==<br />
One example of a '''Fucking machine''' is a piece of equipment designed to hold and move a [[dildo]] by electrical or mechanical means such that a reciprocating or rotating motion is created. These types of machines are used for vaginal penetration and g-spot stimulation and can also be used to penetrate the anus. <br />
<br />
Usually designed for [[vagina]]l use they can be built and powered from pedal cycles as well, with the seat split so that the dildo rises and falls in the appropriate location. Another design use an electric motor to move the dildo with a long metal pole connecting the parts, often with adjustable cams and levers, in order to permit adjustment of the speed of action and depth of thrust. The recipient may be horizontal or vertical depending upon the design of machine.<br />
<br />
Other types of fucking machines, like the popular Sybian machines, do not necessarily involve vaginal penetration so much as clitoral stimulation. Straddling the machine causes not only the area around the clitoris to vibrate, but also the buttocks and legs, giving an overall sense of pleasure. <br />
<br />
Something as simple as a vibrating dildo or faux-vagina might also be considered simple forms of fucking machines. The use of elaborate fucking machines is not widespread due to their often extravagant costs. <br />
<br />
== In BDSM ==<br />
Fucking machines are usually associated with a [[bondage]] [[scene]] or [[suspension]] scene, whereas the [[submissive]] is "tortured" sexually using the machine while being bound, strapped down or tied up. Fucking machines are often also used in conjunction with [[tens units]. <br />
<br />
== Safety ==<br />
The inner linings of the [[anus]] and [[vagina]] are very sensitive, and use of fucking machines should be done with strict care, keeping this in mind at all times. The use of lubricants on any attachment touching the skin is necessary to keep from inflicting serious harm. Making sure any attachments such as [[dildo]]s are continuously monitored and lubricated while in use is paramount to safe operation. It should also be noted that each person's orifice is different, and size of attachments should be taken into account. Always consider a smaller version before a larger one, if inexperienced. It's basic common sense. <br />
<br />
Fucking machine attachments should never be shared between two partners, or used more than once without washing, just as using dildos or the like. <br />
<br />
== Go All Out ==<br />
<br />
Of course, once you decide you like the idea of autonomous stimulation, you have many options to choose from, especially with today's technology, if you are so financially inclined. <br />
<br />
To the simple (and yet still expensive) Sybian type models, to extensive models like full blown life-like dolls which vibrate, you have a world of options. The more people demand products such as these, the more creativity will eventually be put into more elaborate models. <br />
<br />
A good example is the UPD, or Universal Positioning Device, which does not penetrate, which is a geometry modified parallelogram, with “pussy-seeking†action. <br />
<br />
Another example of a non-penetrating machine is the Vulvulator which is intended primarily for clitoral stimulation through the use of sucking, and can be used in conjunction with other machines. <br />
<br />
Take it one step further into a more weird idea, is the Subwoofer Subwoofer, also known as the Sound Fucker. Just as it sounds, it literally creates 1200 horsepower with 120 strokes per 1 inch revolution, with sound. It is used for penetration, but with only a one inch stroke (overall back and forth distance of dildo attachment). <br />
<br />
== Advice on Making Your Own ==<br />
Although people not so financially inclined have been known to make their own machines, usually without strict safety precautions guiding them, they are often times hospitalized or worse. Many people trying to use vaccuum cleaners for sucking their penises suffer the most. Should that necessarily stop anyone else from practicing common sense and safety in the creation of their fucking machine?<br />
<br />
Why not use a reciprocating saw with a dildo attachment? Or a power drill with a dildo attachment? Or create your own pedal style dildo? How about just a simple dildo attached to the end of a broomstick? All sorts of contraptions, from simple to elegant, to downright ridiculous exist today, and are all put to use. <br />
<br />
Have fun, be creative, and by all means, keep it safe. <br />
<br />
==See Also==<br />
* [[Sybian]]<br />
* [[http://www.sexyfandom.com/index.php?s=fucking+machine&submit=Search Search different types of fucking machines with reviews]]<br />
* [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fucking_machine Wikipedia: Fucking Machine]]<br />
* [[http://www.fuckingmachines.com/meetthemachines Listing with pictures]]<br />
* [[http://www.saroftreve.com/workshop/tfm.shtml Build Your own!]]<br />
* [[http://www.extremerestraints.com/stat/sex_machine_guide.html A guide to purchasing]]<br />
* [[http://www.dorkydonkey.com/ A very elaborate and expensive one...]]<br />
* [[http://www.slashdong.org/content/projects.php Another DIY page (really technical)]]<br />
* [[http://us.gizmodo.com/gadgets/columns/gizmodo-gallery-sex-machine-nsfw-136624.php Sex machines as artwork<br />
<br />
[[Category:Sex Toys]]<br />
<br />
{{stub}}</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Castration
Castration
2005-12-26T17:44:25Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== Definition ==<br />
<br />
cas·trate <br />
<br />
tr.v. cas·trat·ed, cas·trat·ing, cas·trates<br />
<br />
*1. To remove the testicles of (a male); geld or emasculate.<br />
*2. To remove the ovaries of (a female); spay.<br />
*3. To deprive of virility or spirit; emasculate.<br />
<br />
n.<br />
<br />
*An individual who is incapable of reproduction as a result of removal, destruction, or inactivation of the gonads.<br />
<br><br />
<br><br />
cas·tra·tion<br />
n. <br />
<br />
*1. The act of removing testicles or ovaries, or depriving one of verility or spirit<br />
*2. Emasculation<br />
<br />
== References ==<br />
<br />
*The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Castration
Castration
2005-12-26T17:43:41Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== Definition ==<br />
<br />
cas·trate <br />
<br />
tr.v. cas·trat·ed, cas·trat·ing, cas·trates<br />
<br />
*1. To remove the testicles of (a male); geld or emasculate.<br />
*2. To remove the ovaries of (a female); spay.<br />
*3. To deprive of virility or spirit; emasculate.<br />
<br />
n.<br />
<br />
*An individual who is incapable of reproduction as a result of removal, destruction, or inactivation of the gonads.<br />
<br />
cas·tra·tion<br />
n. <br />
<br />
*1. The act of removing testicles or ovaries, or depriving one of verility or spirit<br />
*2. Emasculation<br />
<br />
== References ==<br />
<br />
*The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Castrate
Castrate
2005-12-26T17:42:31Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Castration]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Castration
Castration
2005-12-26T17:41:52Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== Definition ==<br />
<br />
cas·trate <br />
<br />
tr.v. cas·trat·ed, cas·trat·ing, cas·trates<br />
<br />
*1. To remove the testicles of (a male); geld or emasculate.<br />
*2. To remove the ovaries of (a female); spay.<br />
*3. To deprive of virility or spirit; emasculate.<br />
<br />
cas·tra·tion<br />
n. <br />
<br />
*1. The act of removing testicles or ovaries, or depriving one of verility or spirit<br />
*2. Emasculation</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Birching
Birching
2005-12-26T17:34:39Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== See [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birching http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birching]] ==</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Birching
Birching
2005-12-26T17:32:44Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birching]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internally_enslaved
Internally enslaved
2005-12-26T14:29:00Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Internal Enslavement]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_Enslavement
Internal Enslavement
2005-12-26T14:28:10Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div></div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_Enslavement
Internal Enslavement
2005-12-26T14:27:15Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[Internal Enslavement]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Internal_enslavement
Internal enslavement
2005-12-26T06:24:35Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== Ineternal Enslavement ==<br />
<br />
== External Links ==<br />
<br />
[[http://www.enslavement.org.uk/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Tpe
Tpe
2005-12-26T06:18:46Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[TPE]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Master/Slave
Master/Slave
2005-12-26T05:59:34Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
<hr />
<div>In common [[D/s]] relationships the [[sub]] only submits occasionally and with definite short-term goals, perhaps for an evening or the duration of a party.<br />
<br />
In longer, committed relationships many people opt for the '''Master/slave''' model, in which consent is negotiated once for a long period and the consent given is generally broader. Some people opt to be purely "sex slaves", while others who prefer domestic service identify as "service slaves". Some slaves allow their Masters or Mistresses complete latitude as to the demands that can be placed on them. Such a relationship is known as "[[Total Power Exchange]]" or TPE.<br />
<br />
It can be one of the most difficult relationships in the BDSM world to maintain, and requires special skills and experience.<br />
<br />
==See Also==<br />
*[[Master]]<br />
*[[Slave]]<br />
*[[Ownership]]<br />
*[[Contracts]]<br />
*[[Advice: Masters]]<br />
<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]<br />
<br />
{{Expandsect}}</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Male_domination
Male domination
2005-12-26T05:58:22Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>'''Maledom''', or '''male dominance''', generally refers to [[heterosexual]] [[BDSM]] activities where the [[dominant]] partner is male, and the [[submissive]] partner is female. However, the term is sometimes used to refer to [[homosexual]] BDSM activities, where both partners are male.<br />
<br />
Compare with [[female domination]], also known as femdom.<br />
<br />
Maledom scenarios are common in [[Slave fiction|BDSM fiction]], including works such as the [[Story of O]] and the works of [[John Norman]] and [[Adrian Hunter]].<br />
<br />
Maledom fiction began with the works of the [[Marquis de Sade]] who wrote about sexual scenarios in which men tortured women. The term "[[sadism]]" is derived from de Sade's name.<br />
<br />
Maledom scenarios are often critiqued by [[feminist]]s because the imposition of the male as the dominant figure can be seen as implying the inferiority of females, although few feminists seem concerned about femdom.<br />
<br />
== See Also ==<br />
*[[Master (BDSM)]]<br />
*[[Advice: Masters]]<br />
<br />
{{Expandsect}}<br />
<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]<br />
[[Category:Men]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Wipipedia.org_talk:Community_Portal
Wipipedia.org talk:Community Portal
2005-12-26T05:50:07Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* Topic Labels - Singular or plural */</p>
<hr />
<div>==Copyright==<br />
Does anyone know enough to complete the [[Wipipedia:Copyrights|Copyright]] page? (BTW for some reason it has more links to it than show up on the "What links here" page.) I'm sure I could fathom out the content myself but suspect that someone else can do it with a lot less effort.<br />
<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 14:17, 2 May 2005 (BST)<br />
<br />
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==Non-consensuality vs BDSM==<br />
With all the publicity around about forced-labour and forced prostitution etc. I have little doubt that some people looking for links about <b>non</b>consensual slavery will end up on this site. It occurs to me that we should have a page on it, distancing this site and BDSM generally and pointing to other sites such as the BBC (I have the link somewhere) and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery etc.<br />
<br />
What does anyone else reckon and does anyone want to start it? I'm not sure what title for the topic would be best.<br />
<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:08, 11 May 2005 (BST)<br />
<br />
Take a peek at [[slavery]] and see what you think. I don't think the site needs to take such a negative stance with something that is generally accepted (outside of BDSM anyways) to be an illegal activity. It's assumed outside the BDSM lifestyle that slavery is socially unacceptable. --[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 05:47:11, 2005-12-26 (GMT)<br />
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<br />
==Topic Labels - abbreviations or not?==<br />
Please see [[Talk:Safe, sane, and consensual]] for proposals I have in this area.<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 19:10, 28 May 2005 (BST)<br />
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<br />
==Topic Labels - Singular or plural==<br />
<br />
We currently have a mixture. What is the 'correct' ruling for this? [[Cane]], [[Dildo]] and [[Paddle]] but [[Blindfolds]], [[Spreader bars]] and [[Violet wands]]. I can understand some things remaining 'plural' even if we have singular - [[Handcuffs]] for example because we don't use 'handcuff' as a noun. Similarly, if we go plural, some things will make easier reading in the singular, such as [[St Andrews cross]]. Nevertheless, I think it would make easier navigating and linking if we were consistent.<br />
<br />
Again, much easier if we sort this out now rather than wait until there's many more links. Any ideas?<br />
<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 16:51, 20 Jun 2005 (BST)<br />
<br />
I try (most of the time) to use the singular. [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 17:19, 20 Jun 2005 (BST)<br />
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<br />
There are always redirects. I know they are a pain in the @ss, but they are very effective in keeping people from getting lost. --[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 05:50:07, 2005-12-26 (GMT)<br />
<br />
==Technical flaw==<br />
I repeatedly found that the Search/Go functions did NOT contain the clickable link to start creating an article (just some coe, probably with a small but critical error in it), while that is still possible if one first creates a 'red link' in an existing article, so the actual creation routine must still be valid - probably a small task for an expert, but greatly needed! [[User:Kosmetès|Kosmetès]] 19:17:50, 2005-11-20 (GMT)<br />
<br />
Thanks for pointiong that out. We upgraded to a new version of the software recently, there must still be some bugs to iron out! [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 23:12, 20 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
<br />
Fixed it. --[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:32, 24 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
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<br />
==Copying from Wikipedia==<br />
Now that this encyclopaedia is established, I really don't think there is benefit in copying vast amounts from Wikipedia, especially without any alterations to change the point-of-view, or to add anything specifically Fetish or BDSM to the content. Wikipedia will always have a greater number of readers and editors than this encyclopaedia and so will always be able to be better and more informative on the 'standard' aspects of things. I think there is far better value in letting Wikipedia handle the main topic (such as [[cat o'nine tails]]) while this encyclopaedia just handles the specific aspects of Fetish/BDSM and puts that perspective and meaning on topics. After all, if I wanted to really know the 'standard' definition and use of some word, I will use Wikipedia. I come here - and edit/contribute here - for the Fetish & BDSM context or information.<br />
<br />
As a further note, we must ensure that we credit Wikipedia whenever we use copy from there, in accordance with the terms of its licence. See the template [[Template:Wikipedia|Wikipedia]] and its [[Template_talk:Wikipedia|discussion page]].<br />
<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:53, 24 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
<br />
Any chance of a bit more, well, community?<br />
<br />
The community talk page is empty and hasn't been edited since November<br />
<br />
I can't find any list of admins to talk to regarding general newbie questions and stuff<br />
<br />
Come on, this could be so great a project if people pulled together a bit more.<br />
<br />
--[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:17, 24 December 2005 (GMT) ([http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Mistress_Selina_Kyle The same Mistress Selina Kyle from Wikipedia])<br />
<br />
>>>> P.S. Clicking the link above incorrectly displays that you're still on the '''Wipipedia''' website in the address bar, not '''Wikipedia''' - I guess this is because you are using frames to hide the lfhosting address - maybe you should make it so external links open automatically in a new window to avoid opening in a frame, or use "a href="whatever" target="_top"> to make it open ignoring the frame as a proper link.<br />
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alternately you might want to set up your website DNS to point directly to lfhosting instead of simply having a "frame" page on wipipedia.org that displays the real site, lfhosting in the frame: talk to your host if you don't know how to do this :)<br />
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Yeah, I know I'm clever. Thank me later. ;) :p --[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:20, 24 December 2005 (GMT)<br />
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'''''Above message also on [[Talk:Main Page]] in hopes someone'll see it!''''' --[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:22, 24 December 2005 (GMT)</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Wipipedia.org_talk:Community_Portal
Wipipedia.org talk:Community Portal
2005-12-26T05:47:11Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* Non-consensuality vs BDSM */</p>
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<div>==Copyright==<br />
Does anyone know enough to complete the [[Wipipedia:Copyrights|Copyright]] page? (BTW for some reason it has more links to it than show up on the "What links here" page.) I'm sure I could fathom out the content myself but suspect that someone else can do it with a lot less effort.<br />
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--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 14:17, 2 May 2005 (BST)<br />
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==Non-consensuality vs BDSM==<br />
With all the publicity around about forced-labour and forced prostitution etc. I have little doubt that some people looking for links about <b>non</b>consensual slavery will end up on this site. It occurs to me that we should have a page on it, distancing this site and BDSM generally and pointing to other sites such as the BBC (I have the link somewhere) and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery etc.<br />
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What does anyone else reckon and does anyone want to start it? I'm not sure what title for the topic would be best.<br />
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--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:08, 11 May 2005 (BST)<br />
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Take a peek at [[slavery]] and see what you think. I don't think the site needs to take such a negative stance with something that is generally accepted (outside of BDSM anyways) to be an illegal activity. It's assumed outside the BDSM lifestyle that slavery is socially unacceptable. --[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 05:47:11, 2005-12-26 (GMT)<br />
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==Topic Labels - abbreviations or not?==<br />
Please see [[Talk:Safe, sane, and consensual]] for proposals I have in this area.<br />
--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 19:10, 28 May 2005 (BST)<br />
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==Topic Labels - Singular or plural==<br />
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We currently have a mixture. What is the 'correct' ruling for this? [[Cane]], [[Dildo]] and [[Paddle]] but [[Blindfolds]], [[Spreader bars]] and [[Violet wands]]. I can understand some things remaining 'plural' even if we have singular - [[Handcuffs]] for example because we don't use 'handcuff' as a noun. Similarly, if we go plural, some things will make easier reading in the singular, such as [[St Andrews cross]]. Nevertheless, I think it would make easier navigating and linking if we were consistent.<br />
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Again, much easier if we sort this out now rather than wait until there's many more links. Any ideas?<br />
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--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 16:51, 20 Jun 2005 (BST)<br />
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I try (most of the time) to use the singular. [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 17:19, 20 Jun 2005 (BST)<br />
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==Technical flaw==<br />
I repeatedly found that the Search/Go functions did NOT contain the clickable link to start creating an article (just some coe, probably with a small but critical error in it), while that is still possible if one first creates a 'red link' in an existing article, so the actual creation routine must still be valid - probably a small task for an expert, but greatly needed! [[User:Kosmetès|Kosmetès]] 19:17:50, 2005-11-20 (GMT)<br />
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Thanks for pointiong that out. We upgraded to a new version of the software recently, there must still be some bugs to iron out! [[User:Balzac|Balzac]] 23:12, 20 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
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Fixed it. --[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:32, 24 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
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==Copying from Wikipedia==<br />
Now that this encyclopaedia is established, I really don't think there is benefit in copying vast amounts from Wikipedia, especially without any alterations to change the point-of-view, or to add anything specifically Fetish or BDSM to the content. Wikipedia will always have a greater number of readers and editors than this encyclopaedia and so will always be able to be better and more informative on the 'standard' aspects of things. I think there is far better value in letting Wikipedia handle the main topic (such as [[cat o'nine tails]]) while this encyclopaedia just handles the specific aspects of Fetish/BDSM and puts that perspective and meaning on topics. After all, if I wanted to really know the 'standard' definition and use of some word, I will use Wikipedia. I come here - and edit/contribute here - for the Fetish & BDSM context or information.<br />
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As a further note, we must ensure that we credit Wikipedia whenever we use copy from there, in accordance with the terms of its licence. See the template [[Template:Wikipedia|Wikipedia]] and its [[Template_talk:Wikipedia|discussion page]].<br />
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--[[User:Interesdom|Interesdom]] 18:53, 24 November 2005 (GMT)<br />
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Any chance of a bit more, well, community?<br />
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The community talk page is empty and hasn't been edited since November<br />
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I can't find any list of admins to talk to regarding general newbie questions and stuff<br />
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Come on, this could be so great a project if people pulled together a bit more.<br />
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--[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:17, 24 December 2005 (GMT) ([http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Mistress_Selina_Kyle The same Mistress Selina Kyle from Wikipedia])<br />
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>>>> P.S. Clicking the link above incorrectly displays that you're still on the '''Wipipedia''' website in the address bar, not '''Wikipedia''' - I guess this is because you are using frames to hide the lfhosting address - maybe you should make it so external links open automatically in a new window to avoid opening in a frame, or use "a href="whatever" target="_top"> to make it open ignoring the frame as a proper link.<br />
<br />
alternately you might want to set up your website DNS to point directly to lfhosting instead of simply having a "frame" page on wipipedia.org that displays the real site, lfhosting in the frame: talk to your host if you don't know how to do this :)<br />
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Yeah, I know I'm clever. Thank me later. ;) :p --[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:20, 24 December 2005 (GMT)<br />
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'''''Above message also on [[Talk:Main Page]] in hopes someone'll see it!''''' --[[User:Mistress Selina Kyle|Mistress Selina Kyle]] 13:22, 24 December 2005 (GMT)</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism
2005-12-26T05:41:54Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>''Sadomasochism'' is a combination of two sexual traits: [[sadism]] and [[masochism]]. '''Sadism''' is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of [[pain]] and suffering upon another person and derives from the name of the [[Marquis de Sade]], an 18th century French writer of sadistic novels. '''Masochism''', the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon oneself, and in turn derives from name of a 19th century author [[Leopold von Sacher-Masoch]], who was best known for his novel ''Venus in Furs'' that described a masochistic relationship.<br />
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Within the fetish scene sadomasochism (S&M or SM) encompases a number of different sub categories (often overlapping): <br />
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*[[24/7]]: The dominant and submissive live out their fantasies 24 hours a day seven days a week.<br />
*[[BDSM]]: Bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism<br />
*[[Bondage]]: Tying people up!<br />
*[[CBT]]: Cock and ball torture<br />
*[[Corporal punishment]]: Caning and spanking (usually in a school or institutional setting).<br />
*[[Flogging]]: The use of [[Floggers]]<br />
*[[Electrical play]]: Use of toys such as a [[TENS Unit]] or [[Violet Wand]]<br />
*[[Edgeplay]]: SM [[play]] involving blood, permanent marking, knives, or fire, sometimes with a greater risk of danger.<br />
*[[Foot worship]]: The submissive has a fetish for (usually) womens feet, legs, shoes and/or stockings.<br />
*[[Needle play]]: Temporary piercing of the skin done with sterile needles of varying gauges.<br />
*[[Pony play]]: The submissive takes on the role of a pony or horse. <br />
*[[Power exchange]]: Where the submissive gives up control of what happens to him or her to the dominant.<br />
*[[Roleplay]]: The dominant and submissive assume roles during the scene<br />
*[[Sensation play]]: Any SM play they involves a sensation (usually painful) being inflicted on the sub.<br />
*[[Switching]]: Where the participants exchange roles as dominant and submissive.<br />
*[[Wax play]]: The Dominant drips hot wax on the sub.<br />
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Any SM based activity between two or more participants is know as a [[scene]]. If the scene takes place in a room designed for SM play it is called a [[dungeon]]. Dungeons can be extensively fitted out with [[SM equipment]] costing many thousands of pounds.<br />
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The wearing of [[fetish]] clothing and imagery is closely associated with the SM world, particularly in [[clubbing|fetish clubs]]. However it would be wrong to say that everybody who is into SM also has a fetish for leather/rubber clothing, likewise many people who have a strong fetish for rubber or leather are not into sadomasochism.<br />
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== See Also ==<br />
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[[Sadism]]<br><br />
[[Sadist]]<br><br />
[[What does S&M mean?]]<br />
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==External Links==<br />
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* [http://mcncirce.com/whereto.html Where to beat]<br />
* [http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml BDSM vs. Abuse]<br />
* [http://www.tes.org The Eulenspiegel Society]<br />
* ''ABC News'' [http://abcnews.go.com/Health/PainManagement/story?id=708687&page=1 Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down: Pain for Pleasure]<br />
* [http://www.ncsfreedom.org/library/smvsabuse.htm SM vs. Abuse] by the ''National Coalition for Sexual Freedom ''<br />
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[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadism
Sadism
2005-12-26T05:41:28Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others.<br />
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== Derivation of the term ==<br />
The term sadism is derived specifically from Sade, Marquis de (Comte Donatien–Alphonse–François) (1740–1814), a French soldier and writer. From the time that he was a young nobleman Sade consorted with prostitutes and developed a taste for sexual perversions. <br />
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He was imprisoned on several occasions for his harsh abuse of prostitutes and gross [[http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=licentiousness licentiousness]]. After arriving at the Bastille in 1784 he began writing erotic novels in which he gave full expression to his sexual fantasies. His most famous novel was The Adversities of Virtue (1787). His works are known for their graphic descriptions of sexual perversions. <br />
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His last years were spent in an insane asylum at Charenton, where he wrote plays for his fellow inmates to perform. His compulsion for physically and sexually abusing others gave rise to the concept of sadism.<br />
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== In relation to BDSM ==<br />
Within the [[BDSM]] community, the [[Dominant]] is most often the [[sadist]], and the [[submissive]] is generally the [[masochist]] (who derives pleasure from receiving pain). Also in the BDSM community, unlike most societal descriptions in the medical and psychological community, sadism is widely accepted as a healthy expression of inflicting pain in a [[safe, sane, and consensual]] manner to a masochist who seeks such activities as a form of emotional release or sexual pleasure. <br />
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== See Also ==<br />
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[[sadist]]<br><br />
[[sadomasochism]]<br><br />
[[What does S&M mean?]]<br />
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== References ==<br />
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* The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition<br />
* Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.<br />
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[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadism
Sadism
2005-12-26T05:41:08Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* See Also */</p>
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<div>The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others.<br />
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== Derivation of the term ==<br />
The term sadism is derived specifically from Sade, Marquis de (Comte Donatien–Alphonse–François) (1740–1814), a French soldier and writer. From the time that he was a young nobleman Sade consorted with prostitutes and developed a taste for sexual perversions. <br />
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He was imprisoned on several occasions for his harsh abuse of prostitutes and gross [[http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=licentiousness licentiousness]]. After arriving at the Bastille in 1784 he began writing erotic novels in which he gave full expression to his sexual fantasies. His most famous novel was The Adversities of Virtue (1787). His works are known for their graphic descriptions of sexual perversions. <br />
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His last years were spent in an insane asylum at Charenton, where he wrote plays for his fellow inmates to perform. His compulsion for physically and sexually abusing others gave rise to the concept of sadism.<br />
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== In relation to BDSM ==<br />
Within the [[BDSM]] community, the [[Dominant]] is most often the [[sadist]], and the [[submissive]] is generally the [[masochist]] (who derives pleasure from receiving pain). Also in the BDSM community, unlike most societal descriptions in the medical and psychological community, sadism is widely accepted as a healthy expression of inflicting pain in a [[safe, sane, and consensual]] manner to a masochist who seeks such activities as a form of emotional release or sexual pleasure. <br />
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== See Also ==<br />
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[[sadist]]<br><br />
[[sadomasochism]]<br />
[[What does S&M mean?]]<br />
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== References ==<br />
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* The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition<br />
* Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.<br />
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[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=S%26M
S&M
2005-12-26T05:40:01Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
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<div>S&M is an abbreviation of [[sadomasochism]] and forms a central theme in much of the sexuality associated with the [[fetish]] scene. '''[[Sadism]]''' is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. '''[[Masochism]]''', the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self. For a more detailed explanation of S&M see [[sadomasochism]].<br />
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'''Sadism''' is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of [[pain]] and suffering upon another person. Medically it is considered to be a [[paraphilia]]. The word is derived from the name of the [[Marquis de Sade]], a prolific French writer of sadistic novels.<br />
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The counterpart of sadism is '''masochism''', the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self, often consisting of sexual fantasies or urges for being beaten, [[Humiliation|humiliated]], [[sexual bondage|bound]], [[torture|tortured]], or otherwise made to suffer, either as an enhancement to or a substitute for sexual pleasure. The name is derived from the name of the 19th century author [[Leopold von Sacher-Masoch]], known for his novel ''Venus in Furs'' that dealt with highly masochistic themes.<br />
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The words are now commonly used to describe personality traits in an emotional, rather than sexual sense. Although it is quite different from the original meaning, this usage is not entirely inaccurate. There is quite frequently a strong emotional aspect to the sexual desires, taking the form of a need for [[Domination and submission|domination or submission]]&#8212;the desire to be controlled, or to control another, as opposed to a simple desire for pain (which is technically known as [[algolagnia]]).<br />
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It is often agreed that this desire for dominance or submission is in fact the driving force behind sadomasochism, with the giving and receiving of pain acting only as an active stimulation to reinforce those feelings. This view is supported by the nature of sadomasochistic behavior. A masochist does not in general take pleasure in any arbitary form of pain, only in pain received under the pretext of enforcing authority, and typically only that of a sexual nature. Likewise, a sadist usually only takes pleasure in pain that is inflicted for reasons of punishment and control, and most often for the indirect pleasure of the masochist. Many sadomasochistic activities involve only mild pain or discomfort. Often they are focused primarily on [[Sexual roleplaying|roleplay]].<br />
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== The biology of S&amp;M ==<br />
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[[Pain]], violence, [[sex]] and love all are associated with the release of a variety of hormones and chemicals within the human body. Furthermore, humans have been shown to exhibit symathetic responses in their bodies while watching, hearing, or imagining such experiences.<br />
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* Levels of sex hormone testosterone can be temporarily affected by one's role S&M interactions. Dominant participants often get raised testosterone levels; whereas submissive participants often get depressed testosterone levels.<br />
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* [[Endorphin]]s are released by pain experiences and can be perceived as pleasurable and possibly addictive.<br />
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* Lactic acid is released by muscles under strain and can be perceived as pleasurable.<br />
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* Brain chemicals such as serotonin and melatonin can be affected by emotional or stressful experiences.<br />
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The effects of S&M on body chemistry probably reinforces the behavior and therefore creates psychological states that seek further such behavior.<br />
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== The psychology of S&amp;M ==<br />
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The terms sadism and masochism were first used consistently to describe these behaviors by the German psychiatrist Richard Freiherr von Krafft-Ebing in his 1886 book ''Psychopathia Sexualis'', a famous study of sexual perversity. Sigmund Freud, a psychoanalyst and a contemporary of Krafft-Ebing, noted that both were often found in the same individuals, and combined the two into a single dichotomous entity known as '''sadomasochism''' (often abbreviated as '''S&amp;M''' or '''S/M'''). This observation is commonly verified in both literature and practice; many sadists and masochists define themselves as "[[switch|switchable]]"&#8212;capable of taking pleasure in either role.<br />
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Both Krafft-Ebing and Freud assumed that sadism in men resulted from the distortion of the aggressive component of the male sexual instinct. Masochism in men, however, was seen as a more significant aberration, contrary to the nature of male sexuality. Freud doubted that masochism in men was ever a primary tendency, and speculated that it may exist only as a transformation of sadism. Sadomasochism in women received comparatively little discussion, as it was believed that it occurred primarily in men. Both also assumed that masochism was so inherent to female sexuality that it would be difficult to distinguish as a separate inclination.<br />
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Havelock Ellis, in ''Studies in the Psychology of Sex'', argued that there is no clear distinction between the aspects of sadism and masochism, and that they may be regarded as complementary emotional states. He also made the important point that sadomasochism is concerned only with pain in regards to sexual pleasure, and not in regards to cruelty, as Freud had suggested. In other words, the sadomasochist generally desires that the pain be inflicted or received in love, not in abuse, for the pleasure of either one or both participants. This mutual pleasure may even be essential for the satisfaction of those involved.<br />
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Here Ellis touches upon the often paradoxical nature of consensual S&M. It is not only pain to initiate pleasure, but violence&#8212;or the simulation of violence&#8212;to express love. This contradictory character is perhaps most evident in the observation by some that not only are sadomasochistic activities usually done for the benefit of the masochist, but that it is often the masochist that controls them, through subtle emotional cues received by the sadist.<br />
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Many theorists, particularly feminist theories, have suggested that sadomasochism is an inherent part of our culture. According to their theories, sex and relationships are both consistently taught to be formulated within a framework of male dominance and female submission. Some of them further link this hypothesized framework to inequalities among gender, class, and race which remain a substantial part of society, despite the efforts of the civil rights movement and [[feminism]]. However, the degree to which any of these influences actually affect sexuality -- either consciously or unconsciously -- is unknown, and the validity of this theory of socially-conditioned female masochism is questionable.<br />
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There are a number of reasons commonly given for why a sadomasochist finds the practice of S&M enjoyable, and the answer is largely dependent on the individual. For some, taking on a role of compliance or helplessness offers a form of therapeutic escape; from the stresses of life, from responsiblity, or from guilt. For others, being under the power of a strong, controlling presence may evoke the feelings of safety and protection associated with childhood. They likewise may derive satisfaction from earning the approval of that figure ''(see: [[Servitude]])''. A sadist, on the other hand, may enjoy the feeling of power and authority that comes from playing the dominant role, or receive pleasure vicariously through the suffering of the masochist. It is poorly understood, though, what ultimately connects these emotional experiences to sexual gratification, or how that connection initially forms.<br />
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It is usually agreed on by psychologists that experiences during early sexual development can have a profound effect on the character of sexuality later in life. Sadomasochistic desires, however, seem to form at a variety of ages. Some individuals report having had them before puberty, while others do not discover them until well into adulthood. According to one study, the majority of male sadomasochists (53%) developed their interest before the age of 15, while the majority of females (78%) developed their interest afterwards (Breslow, Evans, and Langley 1985). Like sexual [[Fetish|fetishes]], sadomasochism can be learned through conditioning&#8212;in this context, the repeated association of sexual pleasure with an object or stimulus.<br />
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== Sadism and masochism in real life ==<br />
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The term [[BDSM]] has been created to describe the quite common activities between consenting adults that contain sadistic and masochistic elements. Many behaviors such as [[erotic spanking]] and [[love-bite]]s that many people think of only as "rough" sex also contain elements of sado-masochism.<br />
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In certain extreme cases, sadism and masochism can include fantasies, sexual urges or behaviour that cause significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning, to the point that they can be considered part of a mental disorder. However, this is an uncommon case, and psychiatrists are now moving towards regarding sadism and masochism not as disorders in and of themselves, but only as disorders when associated with other problems such as a personality disorder.<br />
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== Sadism as a motivation for crime ==<br />
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A small minority of disordered individuals commit crimes with a strong sadistic element. This is generally considered to be caused by personality disorders. Recently, there have been theories that many of these personality disorders have been caused by brain damage.<br />
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== Sadism and masochism in fiction ==<br />
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In general, the depiction of [[sadism and masochism in fiction]] tends to be portrayed from the viewpoint of masochistic fantasy.<br />
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Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's novel ''[[Venus in Furs]]'' is essentially one long masochistic fantasy, where the male principal character encourages his mistress to mistreat him.<br />
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''[[Story of O]]'' is another classic masochistic novel, written by a woman, [[Pauline Réage]]. In this novel, the female principal character is kept in a chateau and mistreated by a group of men.<br />
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The novelist [[Anne Rice]], best known for ''[[Interview with the Vampire]]'', wrote the sadomasochistic trilogy <br />
''[[The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty]]'' under the pseudonym of A. N. Roquelaure.<br />
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The 2001 movie ''[[La Pianiste]]'' (released with subtitles as ''The Piano Teacher'') describes a relationship between a repressed piano teacher and her pupil, which ends unhappily when she reveals her extreme masochistic desires to him, which brings the relationship to an end, but not before he has made a disgusted attempt to enact his conception of her masochistic fantasies.<br />
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A 2002 movie, ''[[Secretary]]'', directed by Steven Shainberg, explores the relationship between a masochistic secretary, and her dominant, sadistic employer.<br />
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As of 2003, sadomasochistic themes are now common in mainstream [[Literature|erotic fiction]], to the point of clich&eacute;.<br />
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==References==<br />
* Breslow N, Evans L, Langley J. On the prevalence and roles of females in the sadomasochistic subculture: Report of an empirical study. ''Archives of Sexual Behavior'' 1985;(14):303-17.<br />
* Anita Phillips. ''A Defense of Masochism'', ISBN 0312192584<br />
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==See also==<br />
* [[BDSM]]<br />
* [[Paraphilia]]<br />
* [[sadism]]<br />
* [[masochism]]<br />
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==External links==<br />
*[http://www.tes.org The Eulenspiegel Society], founded in New York City in 1971 is the oldest SM support group in the US.<br />
*[http://www.soj.org The Society of Janus], founded in San Francisco, California in 1974 is the second oldest SM support group in the US.<br />
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[[category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Advice:_Masters
Advice: Masters
2005-12-26T05:36:50Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* Responsibilities */</p>
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<div>== What is a Master? ==<br />
First off, you should read the article [[Master (BDSM)]] and [[slave]] to at least get a grasp on what each term means to you personally. <br />
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Although in the English language the term "Master" refers to one of expert status in their field of study, it carries no such meaning, neccessarily, in the BDSM community. That is not to say a Master is not an expert or trained, it just doesn't automatically denote that of a person. <br />
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In this discussion, we'll be using the term Master as "One who Dominates over a submissive in a [[power exchange]] situation of some kind." An example of a mild interpretation being a specific scene where you are controlling the situation, to the extreme of owning a slave in a [[TPE|total power exchange]] relationship. <br />
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This discussion assumes that people can and do [[switch]] roles as well, and implies such role reversal is possible. <br />
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== General Understandings ==<br />
*You are the [[Dominant]] one of the relationship. <br />
*Your partner is the [[submissive]] one. <br />
*You are capable mentally and emotionally to lead and guide. <br />
*Your partner is similarly capable to be led.<br />
*You practice [[safe, sane and consensual]] activities. <br />
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If you disagree with any of these ideas, you will find yourself either very confused, or people will be confused by you. If you disagree with all of these statements, you may wish to evaluate your thoughts on participating in this [[lifestyle]] altogether. <br />
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== Responsibilities ==<br />
In virtually all aspects of a [[scene]], and in some cases entire [[lifestyle]] decisions, you bear the brunt of the responsibility of your [[slave]]. Having a keen grasp on your life, being responsible as a person, and understanding your [[limits]] are just some ideas one in the [[lifestyle]] equates with being a good [[Master]]. <br />
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Even if your [[submissive]] directs you in a [[scene]] ([[Topping From The Bottom]]) or you [[switch]], realistically it is still your responsibility to be aware of their needs and desires, but their safety beyond all else, as long as you are the [[Master]]. <br />
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Being a good Master doesn't mean you are perfectly responsible in all aspects of your life either. You might be fundamentally challenged when it comes to keeping your finances in order, but that doesn't make you a poor Master. On the other hand, you might be the greatest boss at work, and be a horrible Master at home. <br />
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It should come down to the question "To what extent should I take responsibility over another human being's decisions." When you answer this question honestly, it will lend to a more objective outlook on [[negotiation]] with a submissive or slave.<br />
<br />
== Research ==<br />
Your best bet as a beginner in the [[lifestyle]], especially when faced with the prospect of a [[submissive]] interested in you, is to research your role as much as possible, as well as potential [[training]] techniques. Even if you are ten years in the lifestyle, learning a new tool or idea is always helpful. <br />
<br />
You should consider training a submissive to be also training for yourself, regardless of your experience. You should always be willing to learn and be taught new aspects of the lifestlye. <br />
<br />
One often times effective way to do this is to learn what [[IRC]] is and become a welcome guest at one of the thousands of [[chatrooms]] available on a plethora of topics. You'll find that as you explore these different worlds, that you will experience many different situations. Be the [[voyeur]], sit back, and just observe. You will also find that you may have widely accepted [[fetishes]] you had no idea even existed, nevermind by like-minded people all over the world. <br />
<br />
Not only that, as you interract with others, you will see how strangers percieve you. This could only assist you in developing your [[role playing]] skills, as well as develop as a Master. If people seem to be reluctant to talk to you online, or you are constantly shunned or banned from chatrooms, you might need to work on your communication skills before approaching a potential submissive. <br />
<br />
Looking at the online community as a fantastic opportunity to learn about the lifestyle (rather than just a place to meet someone) is only advantageous to you and your future in the lifestyle. <br />
<br />
== Defining Your Role ==<br />
It is between you and your slave to define roles and specific responsibilities before entering into any BDSM relationship. As the Master, it will be up to you to bring most of the negotiable items to the table. If you are too inexperienced to do so, or haven't done enough research to have an intelligent understanding of these things, it might be a good idea to step back and reconsider or reevaluate your expectations. You might have to tone things down a bit. You might even consider stopping any negotiations whatsoever until you can get a better grasp on things. <br />
<br />
== Expectations ==<br />
Once you've at least become acclimated to the lifestyle, have expectations! You have every right to expect certain basics from anyone you choose to make a part of your lifestyle. Having expectations is not wrong in the least. Having unrealistic expectations is what gets most people into emotional upheaval and relationship problems. <br />
<br />
For instance. You might expect that every single submissive you meet has the potential to be a slave to you and participate in [[TPE]] ''with you''. This is a good example of having a highly unrealistic expectation. Chances are that you may indeed find a submissive willing to give some part of themselves to you. ''Expecting this'', you will find, is unrealistic. <br />
<br />
A more realistic expectation might be that every submissive you meet understand or at least grasp the concept of the English Language to the extent they can communicate effectively, especially if you meet them in an english speeking community and they are english speaking themselves. ''Expecting them'' to actually communicate to you their every waking desire and need immediately afer meeting you is highly unrealistic. <br />
<br />
When meeting someone in a chatroom devoted to [[foot worship]], for another instance, a realistic expectation is that that person might actually be into foot worship. It would be unrealistic to think they want to ''worship your feet'' in particular. <br />
<br />
== The Best Policies ==<br />
Honesty! <br />
<br />
*Be honest with yourself, and by all means, be honest with your partner. If you've never tried something they wish to try, tell them! If something you are looking to try scares the bajeesus out of you, tell them! <br />
<br />
*The last thing you want to do is get involved in a scene involving something you have absolutely no clue about, to find out that someone's well being is in danger due to your negligent ignorance. <br />
<br />
Communication!<br />
<br />
*The BDSM lifestyle often differentiates itself from [[vanilla]] relationships in the way communication plays such an important role. Negotiating, discussing, talking, and than doing it all over again; it's ongoing throughout a relationship. <br />
<br />
*Meeting someone who doesn't communicate effectively, or when it seems appropriate, should be looked at with a great deal of skepticism. If they don't communicate well now, how will they do so under stress of a scene and you are trying to determine their mental or emotional state?<br />
<br />
Intensity!<br />
<br />
*Is the level of intensity what you expect? Too much? Too little?<br />
*Increase the chances of having a mutual beneficial level of intensity by communicating honestly with your partner. <br />
<br />
== Other Advice ==<br />
Avoid [[role erosion]]. As the dominant partner, it is your responsibility to either make sure the relationship is healthy, or terminate it if it does not meet the partners' needs.<br />
<br />
==External Resources==<br />
* [http://www.family.org/married/comm/a0019372.cfm How a Husband Should Handle His Wife's Submission] (quite a gentle introduction)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.consent.co.nz/index1.htm D-s and BDSM Information Resource]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=18217996183708158422 OKCupid! presents The Are you Dominant or submissive Test] (a bit of <br />
fun but may also stir some thoughts and might be a way to introduce the idea to your partner)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/faq.shtml D-S FAQ - The Newbie Pack]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.angelfire.com/wizard/mastersilk_dizzy/ MasterSilk and dizzy{MS} Guide to BDSM For Beginners]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/novicequestions.htm Novice Questions] (also see the many links at the bottom of that page)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/rulebegdom.htm Rules for Beginning Doms] (A bit 'cheesy' but it could be helpful for a raw and nervous beginner)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.castlerealm.com/library/submacho.shtml Submission vs. Masochism by jade] ([http://www.castlerealm.com/ castelream] is generall a good site to look over)<br />
<br />
[[Category: BDSM]]<br />
[[Category: Articles to be expanded]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Chatrooms
Chatrooms
2005-12-26T05:33:28Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[chat rooms]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Advice:_Masters
Advice: Masters
2005-12-26T05:32:28Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>== What is a Master? ==<br />
First off, you should read the article [[Master (BDSM)]] and [[slave]] to at least get a grasp on what each term means to you personally. <br />
<br />
Although in the English language the term "Master" refers to one of expert status in their field of study, it carries no such meaning, neccessarily, in the BDSM community. That is not to say a Master is not an expert or trained, it just doesn't automatically denote that of a person. <br />
<br />
In this discussion, we'll be using the term Master as "One who Dominates over a submissive in a [[power exchange]] situation of some kind." An example of a mild interpretation being a specific scene where you are controlling the situation, to the extreme of owning a slave in a [[TPE|total power exchange]] relationship. <br />
<br />
This discussion assumes that people can and do [[switch]] roles as well, and implies such role reversal is possible. <br />
<br />
== General Understandings ==<br />
*You are the [[Dominant]] one of the relationship. <br />
*Your partner is the [[submissive]] one. <br />
*You are capable mentally and emotionally to lead and guide. <br />
*Your partner is similarly capable to be led.<br />
*You practice [[safe, sane and consensual]] activities. <br />
<br />
If you disagree with any of these ideas, you will find yourself either very confused, or people will be confused by you. If you disagree with all of these statements, you may wish to evaluate your thoughts on participating in this [[lifestyle]] altogether. <br />
<br />
== Responsibilities ==<br />
In virtually all aspects of a [[scene]], and in some cases entire [[lifestyle]] decisions, you bear the brunt of the responsibility of your [[slave]]. Having a keen grasp on your life, being responsible as a person, and understanding your [[limits]] are just some ideas one in the [[lifestyle]] equates with being a good [[Master]]. <br />
<br />
Even if your [[submissive]] directs you in a [[scene]] ([[topping from the bottom]]) or you [[switch]], realistically it is still your responsibility to be aware of their needs and desires, but their safety beyond all else, as long as you are the [[Master]]. <br />
<br />
Being a good Master doesn't mean you are perfectly responsible in all aspects of your life either. You might be fundamentally challenged when it comes to keeping your finances in order, but that doesn't make you a poor Master. On the other hand, you might be the greatest boss at work, and be a horrible Master at home. <br />
<br />
It should come down to the question "To what extent should I take responsibility over another human being's decisions." When you answer this question honestly, it will lend to a more objective outlook on [[negotiation]] with a submissive or slave. <br />
<br />
== Research ==<br />
Your best bet as a beginner in the [[lifestyle]], especially when faced with the prospect of a [[submissive]] interested in you, is to research your role as much as possible, as well as potential [[training]] techniques. Even if you are ten years in the lifestyle, learning a new tool or idea is always helpful. <br />
<br />
You should consider training a submissive to be also training for yourself, regardless of your experience. You should always be willing to learn and be taught new aspects of the lifestlye. <br />
<br />
One often times effective way to do this is to learn what [[IRC]] is and become a welcome guest at one of the thousands of [[chatrooms]] available on a plethora of topics. You'll find that as you explore these different worlds, that you will experience many different situations. Be the [[voyeur]], sit back, and just observe. You will also find that you may have widely accepted [[fetishes]] you had no idea even existed, nevermind by like-minded people all over the world. <br />
<br />
Not only that, as you interract with others, you will see how strangers percieve you. This could only assist you in developing your [[role playing]] skills, as well as develop as a Master. If people seem to be reluctant to talk to you online, or you are constantly shunned or banned from chatrooms, you might need to work on your communication skills before approaching a potential submissive. <br />
<br />
Looking at the online community as a fantastic opportunity to learn about the lifestyle (rather than just a place to meet someone) is only advantageous to you and your future in the lifestyle. <br />
<br />
== Defining Your Role ==<br />
It is between you and your slave to define roles and specific responsibilities before entering into any BDSM relationship. As the Master, it will be up to you to bring most of the negotiable items to the table. If you are too inexperienced to do so, or haven't done enough research to have an intelligent understanding of these things, it might be a good idea to step back and reconsider or reevaluate your expectations. You might have to tone things down a bit. You might even consider stopping any negotiations whatsoever until you can get a better grasp on things. <br />
<br />
== Expectations ==<br />
Once you've at least become acclimated to the lifestyle, have expectations! You have every right to expect certain basics from anyone you choose to make a part of your lifestyle. Having expectations is not wrong in the least. Having unrealistic expectations is what gets most people into emotional upheaval and relationship problems. <br />
<br />
For instance. You might expect that every single submissive you meet has the potential to be a slave to you and participate in [[TPE]] ''with you''. This is a good example of having a highly unrealistic expectation. Chances are that you may indeed find a submissive willing to give some part of themselves to you. ''Expecting this'', you will find, is unrealistic. <br />
<br />
A more realistic expectation might be that every submissive you meet understand or at least grasp the concept of the English Language to the extent they can communicate effectively, especially if you meet them in an english speeking community and they are english speaking themselves. ''Expecting them'' to actually communicate to you their every waking desire and need immediately afer meeting you is highly unrealistic. <br />
<br />
When meeting someone in a chatroom devoted to [[foot worship]], for another instance, a realistic expectation is that that person might actually be into foot worship. It would be unrealistic to think they want to ''worship your feet'' in particular. <br />
<br />
== The Best Policies ==<br />
Honesty! <br />
<br />
*Be honest with yourself, and by all means, be honest with your partner. If you've never tried something they wish to try, tell them! If something you are looking to try scares the bajeesus out of you, tell them! <br />
<br />
*The last thing you want to do is get involved in a scene involving something you have absolutely no clue about, to find out that someone's well being is in danger due to your negligent ignorance. <br />
<br />
Communication!<br />
<br />
*The BDSM lifestyle often differentiates itself from [[vanilla]] relationships in the way communication plays such an important role. Negotiating, discussing, talking, and than doing it all over again; it's ongoing throughout a relationship. <br />
<br />
*Meeting someone who doesn't communicate effectively, or when it seems appropriate, should be looked at with a great deal of skepticism. If they don't communicate well now, how will they do so under stress of a scene and you are trying to determine their mental or emotional state?<br />
<br />
Intensity!<br />
<br />
*Is the level of intensity what you expect? Too much? Too little?<br />
*Increase the chances of having a mutual beneficial level of intensity by communicating honestly with your partner. <br />
<br />
== Other Advice ==<br />
Avoid [[role erosion]]. As the dominant partner, it is your responsibility to either make sure the relationship is healthy, or terminate it if it does not meet the partners' needs.<br />
<br />
==External Resources==<br />
* [http://www.family.org/married/comm/a0019372.cfm How a Husband Should Handle His Wife's Submission] (quite a gentle introduction)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.consent.co.nz/index1.htm D-s and BDSM Information Resource]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=18217996183708158422 OKCupid! presents The Are you Dominant or submissive Test] (a bit of <br />
fun but may also stir some thoughts and might be a way to introduce the idea to your partner)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/faq.shtml D-S FAQ - The Newbie Pack]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.angelfire.com/wizard/mastersilk_dizzy/ MasterSilk and dizzy{MS} Guide to BDSM For Beginners]<br />
<br />
* [http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/novicequestions.htm Novice Questions] (also see the many links at the bottom of that page)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/rulebegdom.htm Rules for Beginning Doms] (A bit 'cheesy' but it could be helpful for a raw and nervous beginner)<br />
<br />
* [http://www.castlerealm.com/library/submacho.shtml Submission vs. Masochism by jade] ([http://www.castlerealm.com/ castelream] is generall a good site to look over)<br />
<br />
[[Category: BDSM]]<br />
[[Category: Articles to be expanded]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Total_power_exchange
Total power exchange
2005-12-26T05:08:15Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#Redirect [[tpe]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Total_power_exchange
Total power exchange
2005-12-26T05:07:37Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#Redirect [[total power exchange]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Talk:Master_(expert)
Talk:Master (expert)
2005-12-26T04:03:45Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>Okay, so what if we made a "Master" page, and took this Master (expert) and put it on the same page as Master (bdsm). I am thinking that would be more appropriate as it's a widely used term in BDSM and should have it's own page. Just my thoughts. <br />
<br />
I mean, when one looks up "slave" they don't see links like that, showing the non-lifestyle version of it...lol...<br />
<br />
Master and slave are so closely intertwined like peanut butter and jelly it'd only make sense to treat them similarly in the search function. <br />
<br />
Let me know your thoughts. --[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 04:01:58, 2005-12-26 (GMT)</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Talk:Master_(expert)
Talk:Master (expert)
2005-12-26T04:01:58Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>Okay, so what if we made a "Master" page, and took this Master (expert) and put it on the same page as Master (bdsm). I am thinking that would be more appropriate as it's a widely used term in BDSM and should have it's own page. Just my thoughts. <br />
<br />
Let me know your thoughts. --[[User:ViciousLover|Vicious Lover]] 04:01:58, 2005-12-26 (GMT)</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadism
Sadism
2005-12-26T03:52:15Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* References */</p>
<hr />
<div>The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others.<br />
<br />
== Derivation of the term ==<br />
The term sadism is derived specifically from Sade, Marquis de (Comte Donatien–Alphonse–François) (1740–1814), a French soldier and writer. From the time that he was a young nobleman Sade consorted with prostitutes and developed a taste for sexual perversions. <br />
<br />
He was imprisoned on several occasions for his harsh abuse of prostitutes and gross [[http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=licentiousness licentiousness]]. After arriving at the Bastille in 1784 he began writing erotic novels in which he gave full expression to his sexual fantasies. His most famous novel was The Adversities of Virtue (1787). His works are known for their graphic descriptions of sexual perversions. <br />
<br />
His last years were spent in an insane asylum at Charenton, where he wrote plays for his fellow inmates to perform. His compulsion for physically and sexually abusing others gave rise to the concept of sadism.<br />
<br />
== In relation to BDSM ==<br />
Within the [[BDSM]] community, the [[Dominant]] is most often the [[sadist]], and the [[submissive]] is generally the [[masochist]] (who derives pleasure from receiving pain). Also in the BDSM community, unlike most societal descriptions in the medical and psychological community, sadism is widely accepted as a healthy expression of inflicting pain in a [[safe, sane, and consensual]] manner to a masochist who seeks such activities as a form of emotional release or sexual pleasure. <br />
<br />
== See Also ==<br />
<br />
[[sadist]]<br><br />
[[sadomasochism]]<br />
<br />
== References ==<br />
<br />
* The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition<br />
* Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.<br />
<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism
2005-12-26T03:33:47Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* External Links */</p>
<hr />
<div>''Sadomasochism'' is a combination of two sexual traits: [[sadism]] and [[masochism]]. '''Sadism''' is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of [[pain]] and suffering upon another person and derives from the name of the [[Marquis de Sade]], an 18th century French writer of sadistic novels. '''Masochism''', the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon oneself, and in turn derives from name of a 19th century author [[Leopold von Sacher-Masoch]], who was best known for his novel ''Venus in Furs'' that described a masochistic relationship.<br />
<br />
Within the fetish scene sadomasochism (S&M or SM) encompases a number of different sub categories (often overlapping): <br />
<br />
*[[24/7]]: The dominant and submissive live out their fantasies 24 hours a day seven days a week.<br />
*[[BDSM]]: Bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism<br />
*[[Bondage]]: Tying people up!<br />
*[[CBT]]: Cock and ball torture<br />
*[[Corporal punishment]]: Caning and spanking (usually in a school or institutional setting).<br />
*[[Flogging]]: The use of [[Floggers]]<br />
*[[Electrical play]]: Use of toys such as a [[TENS Unit]] or [[Violet Wand]]<br />
*[[Edgeplay]]: SM [[play]] involving blood, permanent marking, knives, or fire, sometimes with a greater risk of danger.<br />
*[[Foot worship]]: The submissive has a fetish for (usually) womens feet, legs, shoes and/or stockings.<br />
*[[Needle play]]: Temporary piercing of the skin done with sterile needles of varying gauges.<br />
*[[Pony play]]: The submissive takes on the role of a pony or horse. <br />
*[[Power exchange]]: Where the submissive gives up control of what happens to him or her to the dominant.<br />
*[[Roleplay]]: The dominant and submissive assume roles during the scene<br />
*[[Sensation play]]: Any SM play they involves a sensation (usually painful) being inflicted on the sub.<br />
*[[Switching]]: Where the participants exchange roles as dominant and submissive.<br />
*[[Wax play]]: The Dominant drips hot wax on the sub.<br />
<br />
Any SM based activity between two or more participants is know as a [[scene]]. If the scene takes place in a room designed for SM play it is called a [[dungeon]]. Dungeons can be extensively fitted out with [[SM equipment]] costing many thousands of pounds.<br />
<br />
The wearing of [[fetish]] clothing and imagery is closely associated with the SM world, particularly in [[clubbing|fetish clubs]]. However it would be wrong to say that everybody who is into SM also has a fetish for leather/rubber clothing, likewise many people who have a strong fetish for rubber or leather are not into sadomasochism.<br />
<br />
== See Also ==<br />
<br />
[[Sadism]]<br><br />
[[Sadist]]<br />
<br />
==External Links==<br />
<br />
* [http://mcncirce.com/whereto.html Where to beat]<br />
* [http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml BDSM vs. Abuse]<br />
* [http://www.tes.org The Eulenspiegel Society]<br />
* ''ABC News'' [http://abcnews.go.com/Health/PainManagement/story?id=708687&page=1 Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down: Pain for Pleasure]<br />
* [http://www.ncsfreedom.org/library/smvsabuse.htm SM vs. Abuse] by the ''National Coalition for Sexual Freedom ''<br />
<br />
[[Category:BDSM]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Sadism
Sadism
2005-12-26T03:32:45Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others.<br />
<br />
== Derivation of the term ==<br />
The term sadism is derived specifically from Sade, Marquis de (Comte Donatien–Alphonse–François) (1740–1814), a French soldier and writer. From the time that he was a young nobleman Sade consorted with prostitutes and developed a taste for sexual perversions. <br />
<br />
He was imprisoned on several occasions for his harsh abuse of prostitutes and gross [[http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=licentiousness licentiousness]]. After arriving at the Bastille in 1784 he began writing erotic novels in which he gave full expression to his sexual fantasies. His most famous novel was The Adversities of Virtue (1787). His works are known for their graphic descriptions of sexual perversions. <br />
<br />
His last years were spent in an insane asylum at Charenton, where he wrote plays for his fellow inmates to perform. His compulsion for physically and sexually abusing others gave rise to the concept of sadism.<br />
<br />
== In relation to BDSM ==<br />
Within the [[BDSM]] community, the [[Dominant]] is most often the [[sadist]], and the [[submissive]] is generally the [[masochist]] (who derives pleasure from receiving pain). Also in the BDSM community, unlike most societal descriptions in the medical and psychological community, sadism is widely accepted as a healthy expression of inflicting pain in a [[safe, sane, and consensual]] manner to a masochist who seeks such activities as a form of emotional release or sexual pleasure. <br />
<br />
== See Also ==<br />
<br />
[[sadist]]<br><br />
[[sadomasochism]]<br />
<br />
== References ==<br />
<br />
* The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition<br />
* Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=S/m
S/m
2005-12-26T03:16:51Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[sadomasochism]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Scenes
Scenes
2005-12-26T03:16:24Z
<p>ViciousLover: </p>
<hr />
<div>#REDIRECT [[scene]]</div>
ViciousLover
http://wipipedia.org/index.php?title=Power_exchange
Power exchange
2005-12-26T03:16:05Z
<p>ViciousLover: /* Power Exchange vs. TPE */</p>
<hr />
<div>''This article is currently in a state where it needs editing to make it read well. You are welcome to [{{SERVER}}{{localurl:{{NAMESPACE}}:{{PAGENAME}}|action=edit}} edit it] to improve it.''<br />
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<br />
== Power Exchange vs. TPE ==<br />
Power Exchange exists when a [[submissive]] willingly gives responsibility of certain aspects of their [[lifestyle]] to a [[Dominant]]. In it's most basic level, this would pertain specifically to [[scenes]] and [[S/m]] activities specifically designed to express this power exchange to each other. It's highest level is generally referred to as [[Total Power Exchange]], or [[TPE]]. In this case, and subject to the interpretation of each partner, all or most responsibilities and decisions within predefined and [[negotiated]] [[limits]] are given from the submissive to the Dominant. TPE takes place most often in a [[Master]]/[[slave]] relationship. <br />
<br />
In [[BDSM]], the term '''Power Exchange''' is associated with a [[submissive]] exchanging his/her authority to make decisions, whether just for a [[scene]] (Power Exchange), or for his/her entire life (TPE), for the [[Dominant]]'s agreement to take responsibility for his/her happiness and health.<br />
<br />
== Spontaneous Power Exchange ==<br />
One person may willingly and consciously hand over personal autonomy or the power dynamic may arise between the parties in the relationship as a spontaneous result of their interpersonal chemistry, in which case no conscious decision is made. This power can manifest in an endless variety of relationship dynamics. Some of the variations include:<br />
<br />
* addressing another person as "Master" or "Mistress" for a ten-minute scene.<br />
* a witnessed, formal [[collaring]] with a lifelong agreement between the parties for the dominant to provide an ongoing presence in the submissive's life. See [[TPE]]. Collared slaves have responsibilities and duties that vary from the moderate to extreme micro-management.<br />
* an agreement of service that covers the duties and responsibilities of the submissive that may or may not include a long term commitment. Some service relationships are understood to last only as long as the submissive maintains performance standards.<br />
<br />
== In Depth ==<br />
On a psychological level, much [[BDSM]] "[[play]]" involves [[power]] and [[dominance]], in particular '''power exchange''', with one person willingly handing over personal autonomy. This can range from addressing another person as "[[Master]]" or "[[Mistress]]" for a ten-minute [[scene]], to a witnessed, formal [[collaring]] with an agreement which governs the submissive's entire life. The latter is often referred to as [[TPE]] or '''Total Power Exchange''' or [[24/7]] or [[24/7|24/7/365]].<br />
<br />
In "[[safe, sane and consensual]]" BDSM, '''power exchange''' is always negotiated. Before play, the participants would discuss their physical and psychological limitations, establish [[safeword]]s and work out what will happen. <br />
<br />
A [[submissive (BDSM)|submissive]] is a person who submits or potentially submits to another. Submissives can vary in how serious they take their position, training, and situation. Reasons for this include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance or working through issues of shame.<br />
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A [[dominant]] (abbreviation [[dom]]) is a person who exercises the power to take control of a person or situation through usage of some means (such as physical, mental, financial, etc.) on a regular basis; the abbreviation [[dom]] is also sometimes used as the gender specific term for a male dominant, while [[domme]] is exclusively used for female dominants. Reasons for this include demonstrating skill and power, having [[ownership]] of another person, being the object of affection and devotion.<br />
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In most '''power exchange''' as referred to in a BDSM scene, there are limitations on the power the dominant has over the submissive, such as [[safeword]]s, time limits and/or explicitly negotiated understandings of what is allowed.<br />
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According to most practitioners, the power exchange should always be negotiated. Before play, the participants discuss their physical and psychological limitations, establish [[safeword]]s (words that will signal the cessation of the scene), and work out what activities they will engage in. <br />
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However, many reject extensive negotiation and eschew the use of safewords, preferring instead to accept heightened risk and facilitate a more "natural" interaction. The conflict between the need for risk and the need for limitations and safety is at the heart of the [[Safe, sane and consensual|SSC]] and [[RACK]] controversies.<br />
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== Types of power exchange relationships ==<br />
;[[Head of Household]] (HOH)<br />
:Much like the 'traditional' marriage, this is a relationship that exists in many [[vanilla]] households (think of the phrase "who wears the trousers"). It is listed on this site because a HOH relationship is contiously [[Informed consent|consensual]], where many vanilla situations just evolved or are imposed by one partner on the other.<br />
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;[[Domestic Discipline]] (DD)<br />
:The most vocal branch of this type concentrates heavily on spanking but it can be much more than that. A healthy DD relationship maintains because one partner is willing to be disciplined and another is willing to discipline, where that discipline is done for the good of the other partner or the partnership itself.<br />
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;[[Taken In Hand]] (TIH)<br />
:More narrowly-focused than most types, TIH is based on a male-led, heterosexual, monogamous relationship allowing for [[consensual non-consent]] from the woman.<br />
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;[[Daddy/lil girl]] or Daddy Dom<br />
:A relationship dynamic where one partner takes a recognisably parental position with the other partner. There is more often a noticeable age gap in this type of relationship than in others but it is not about age - the 'Daddy' can be younger than the 'lil girl'. Confusingly, the "Daddy Dom" can be female but in most such heterosexual relationships, they refer to themselves with terms like Mummy/[[boy]].<br />
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;[[D/s|Dominant/submissive]] (D/s)<br />
:By some defintions, ''all'' power exchange relationships are dominant/submissive, except those where the parties normally [[switch]]. The narrower focus of the meaning of a D/s relationship, however, is of people who acknowledge to one another that one is in a dominant position over the other.<br />
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;[[TPE|Total Power Exchange]] (TPE) or Absolute Power Exchange (APE)<br />
:An extreme of power exchange, often used synonymously with Master/slave. This term is more often used by those where the [[Submissive#Noun|submissive]] owns property and can act in her own right but will follow all orders of the [[dominant]].<br />
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;[[Master/slave]] (M/s) or Owner/Property<br />
:An extreme form of power exchange, where one partner considers themselves the property of the other, in all practicable meaning. While it is talked about a great deal, it is actually quite rare because of the high level of time committment from the Master (owner) and the depth of dependence the slave (property) has to be prepared to accept.<br />
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