This article discusses the etiquette of fetish clubs. These clubs offer people the chance to explore their own sexuality, but at the same time there are rules and codes of conduct for behaviour. The main rules are that touching anyone else without permission, and any form of harassment, are strictly forbidden. Fetish clubs provide a venue for many different ideas and practices; prejudices should not be brought into the club, and making assumptions about other people is not recommended.
Etiquette is especially important in the playroom. Be considerate at all times, and be careful where you stand or walk. If people are using the equipment, the last thing they want is someone being hurt accidentally. If unsure, keep to behaviour that would be acceptable in the local pub/bar/restaurant.
Although interaction between players and watchers is not banned, don't assume that because someone is playing they will want you to join in. Fetish clubs are not singles nights; they are usually attended by couples or groups. If you spend some time watching, you will see that some couples are happier left alone, while other players are keen for others to join in. Always ask politely and accept a 'no' when you hear it, as others will give you the same privilege. Don't assume that just because women are dressed in extremely sexual clothing that they will automatically wish you to touch/proposition/have sex with them: some will; some won't — just don't make assumptions.
- General Club Etiquette from www.fetish-net.org.uk