View source for Advice: Strap-on dildo

A [[strap-on dildo]] is the ultimate tool for power exchange according to [[User:Mistress Vamp|Mistress Vamp]].

A strap-on is the harness that holds your dildo, usually attached to the Mons Pubis (although, there are harnesses that can be worn on the thigh). The harness allows a woman to use a dildo as if it were her own cock (AKA a "Strapadictomi" ''sic''), or allows a man the opportunity to either double penetrate their partner or simply use it in place of their own cock.

Most Dildos give no "feedback" sensation although with practice the wearer will start to feel like it is part of them. Some harnesses like the [[vac-u-lock]] have a number of attachments including bullet toys, dildos and butt plugs for the wearer, which for some can be distracting and for others a double dose of pleasure.

In some people's opinions strap-ons can be bloody hard work to use! Using one gave me more respect for men's abilities! It can be very tiring on the arms holding yourself up, though I may just be doing it wrong (opinion of [[user:Spicecat|Spicecat]]).

Others prefer to make '''them''' do the work. If you lie back let them ride your cock, you get great visuals and better friction. Of course this also means you can use your or your partner's fingers as well.

Of course, for deeper action, I might change position and take control but there's loads of positions to keep the effort low but the emotionals high. 

I, [[user:demolitionred|demolitionred]], have many strap-ons but only my vac-u-lock qualifies as a cock. It gives great control as the vacuum secures the cock very firmly in place and a nice selection of very life-like phalluses.

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I, [[User:Mistress Vamp|Mistress Vamp]] would recommend you look for the following when buying a harness or dildo:


'''Buying a Harness'''


Make sure the size is adjustable

Try before you buy if you can, make sure the fit is right and it feels comfortable

Decide on the style you prefer thong, harness or thigh

Decide what material you would prefer, the most common and best in my opinion is leather, but there are some fantastic fabric harnesses on the market too.

Make sure the harness has adjustable O rings (so you can use dildos of different widths)


'''Buying a Dildo'''


Decide on the type of material you want. There is a huge list to choose from including: 
silicone, generic rubber, jelly, [[cyberskin]], fiberfoam, lucite, acrylic, metal and glass. They all have different properties, are cleaned differently and obviously feel very different.

Do you want a vibrating dildo?

Obviously size ''is'' important. Sizes range from about 5-inches up to as much as 18-inches for some of the larger varieties and diameters can range from 1 inch to about 3 inches.

Shape is also important. Dildos come in an amazing array of choices: straight, curved, 
penis-looking, flaccid, semi-realistic, smooth non-realistic etc. The shape is often important depending on what position you use.

The Nexus and Feeldoe are both reasonably new double-ended dildos which can be used in a harness for the pleasure of both partners.


It is important that the lubrication you use is compatible with the material your dildo is made of. 
The  most common lubricant is water based lubriction. Remember silicone lubricant is safe to use with all sex toys except those made of silicone


--[[User:Mistress Vamp|Mistress Vamp]] 23:37, 24 Mar 2005 (GMT)

== Strap-on & Harness Suppliers ==

*http://www.vac-u-lock.com Vac-U-Lock
*http://www.babeland.com Babeland
*http://www.vixencreations.com Vixen Creations
*http://www.goodvibes.com Goodvibes
*http://www.regulation-london.co.uk/newsite/subcat.asp?subcatid=59 Regulation

A good source of strap on harnesses and helpful experienced staff is 
[http://www.sh-womenstore.com/ Sh! The sex store for Women] in East London. 

Also in East London, (Obviously the Dildo Capital of Europe!), [http://www.babes-n-horny.com Babes 'n' Horny]. These guys make their own beautiful Silicone dildos, in too many colours to count, and have an expert saddlemaker on board stitching up their harnesses.  Mistress Nikki buys dildos from no other! Having had several latex ones break on her, she would rather invest the money in a top quality, UK produced product.



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