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'''Your First Enema'''

It's embarrassing, isn't it? You have this interest.
 
You may be a girl in her 20s, a man in his 60s or anyone else -- the thing that makes you different from "other people" is that you have an interest in [[enema]]s. It's not just the idea that a "clean colon is the best way to a healthy body" (a good motto, by the way); it's a desire to experience the [[anus|anorectal]] and colonic stimulation provided by a skillfully given enema. You may have lurked in this newsgroup (a. s. e.) for months, and yet you're still afraid to post or to email any of the contributors. Maybe you even went so far as to get an "anon" number. You may have even talked to your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife about enemas in a tentative way--and been rebuffed. Or maybe you don't have the ability to discuss this issue. You're just too shy.

If any of the above describes you, these suggestions that may help you satisfy the longings you feel. The first thing is that you are not alone, whether you are male or female. Many people have a strong interest in enemas, both for cleansing and for erotic purposes. I have personally corresponded with many folks, both male and female, who share what they often call "the kink"--an interest in receiving or giving enemas. Some (me included) like both giving and receiving; others like only to receive (typically they are submissives), while some also like only to give (typically they are dominants). There are probably hundreds of thousands of people who enjoy enemas, but for whom it is a "dirty secret;" after all, it's "unnatural" (so they think). I wish to say to all of you who fear to reveal your interests, THERE ARE OTHERS LIKE YOU. 

The paper that follows is an effort to help you find a way (or two) to express your desires / needs in the context of your own life, or to find a partner who has the same interests. I have been interested in enemas for almost as long as I can remember. They always have seemed to me to have an erotic component, and I remember that when I was still a teenager I fantasized about giving them to my girlfriends. I also always enjoyed receiving them. I gave them to myself from time to time when the house was empty (parents and siblings gone), and felt a combination of things from them: first, they actually felt good to me--the rectal stimulation, the filling, the pressure, even the cramps, felt good. All the preceding were components of a very erotic experience for me. Then, I felt good when I was finished. Lighter. Empty. Cleansed. Until my first *real* girlfriend, I was too shy to discuss enemas at all. I thought nobody else in the WORLD was like me--then I found that my girlfriend (we were both still in our teens) had been given enemas by her mother-- and she wanted me to repeat the process for her. With her (as with so many "klismos"), the enema was a love-hate thing. She wanted enemas (and, I'm sure, fantasized about them), but she also feared them because of the pain/humiliation but wanted them because of the rectal/anal pleasure, the stimulation and domination and... 

If you're a klismo, you're acquainted with many of these emotions.

Eventually we developed a routine--I would ask her "how she was feeling;" I could always tell if she wanted/needed an enema (or two) by her response. First, she would look down. Then she would get a bit tongue-tied; then she would tell me she "wasn't feeling good;" and, of course, that made me ask the questions leading up to the conclusion: "Well, I think I need to give you an enema." She typically concurred with my judgment, especially after we got the preceding routine set up and began to understand each other's body language and verbal responses a bit better. She wanted to receive, I wanted to give. Strangely enough, I was too shy to tell her that I also would like to receive. To this day, I don't understand my own shyness about this. 

Anyway, time went by and we broke up, and both of us found other partners--and I discovered the great (and disgusting) truth that there were also many women who did NOT like or wish to receive enemas. This was a real blow. Now I felt like I had before. Nobody else was like me. I actually believed that until the late 1970's, when I began to see publications appear in the adult bookstores dealing with enemas. They were usually fake (the pictorials, anyway) -- but at least I now knew I was not the only one. 

You should also have an understanding of the other person's total sexuality. Enemas are one part of a much larger picture. If your partner is a woman, what really turns her on (assuming your interest is more than cleansing)? How can you bring her pleasure? If she wants to give (and you're a guy), is she turned on by the dominance and control she feels? Are you willing to relinquish that part of yourself? What does she want to do AFTER the enema? Have sex? Be caressed? Spank you? If you're a guy, and you wish to introduce this to your girlfriend, think of *her* first. How does she react to anal stimulation? Is she opposed to any "backdoor" play? If so, an attempt to introduce her to enemas is probably bound to fail. An enema is quite embarrassing, unless you're used to it. You expose a very private part of your anatomy and passively receive what your partner wishes to give. It can also be scary. What if he won't stop when I'm full? What if I leak all over? What about the cramping? All sorts of questions crowd into the mind, and make it hard to say "Yes" to your lover when he comes and proposes an enema as part of your sex life. 

There are also some people who really DO NOT like anal stimulation. Those people are not good candidates for enemas. So broach the subject in the general context of anal stimulation and pleasure, if that turns her on. If the control and domination aspects of your sex life are something she wishes to explore, an enema is a tremendous way to show that you are "in control" of your lover. She has to submit--to bare her bottom and LET you do this to her, which means you have control. By the way, after you get started, and you've given her a few enemas (if control is your "bag"), it's a great idea for her to come home and find the bag lying on the bed with written instructions as to the temperature, amount and type of solution, so that she can fill the bag and get everything ready for you to give to her--and a set of orders regarding how she's to position herself for your arrival. 

'''If you are looking for a partner:'''
I have found a number of female friends on the 'net; most of them are scattered all over the country, so if you find somebody close to you, you're lucky. You might try looking for a "submissive" girl (if you're dominant) or a dominant (if you're submissive). Many submissives will receive enemas, and also give them, if it's approached in the context of their overall D&S and B&D lifestyle. 

Same thing for dominants. If you're a woman, and looking for a man, look for someone who's interested in more than your bottom end. Obviously, this particular "kink" drew you together, but you should always feel a certain level of trust and confidence in the person who gives to you. There are quite a few nice men ready to fulfill (or is that fill full?) your needs. Most of the time you will find them advertising, lurking, or posting to Usenet groups like alt.sex.enemas Get to know the person first (if you can), and make clear what your expectations are. (No sex? Tell him up front.)

==See Also==
* [[Enema]]
* [[Enema solutions]]
* [[Enema techniques]]
* [[Medical equipment]]
* [[Enema equipment]]

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