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'''Negotiating in scene''' mixes [[negotiation]] with [[play]], especially in a [[D/s]] context. 

In physical play, negotiating in scene typically consists simply of slowly moving toward more intense forms of an activity, checking in continually to see if you are approaching your [[limit]]s. 

In D/s, negotiation itself can be made into a scene. For example, a [[Dom]] can start out by giving the new [[sub]] a [[safeword]], and then negotiate by [[interrogation]]. Often, the questions are ones where the mere fact of being able to ask such a question reinforces the power relationship.

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Some sample questions for negotiating in scene:
* Tell me something that we can pretend is a [[discipline|punishment]], but is actually a reward.
* I want you to name something that is within your [[limit]]s, but which you don't really enjoy, and that I may use if I really want to punish you within a scene.
* What's the most submissive/[[masochism|masochistic]] thing you've ever done?
* How would you feel about me giving you orders to do something when I'm not around? (For example) Is it within your limits if I left a message on your mobile phone ordering you to [[masturbation|masturbate]] to [[orgasm]]? How about if I left a message telling you that you may not masturbate at all until you see me again? 

== See also ==
* [[Interrogation]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Power exchange]]
* [[Scene]]
* [[Scene negotiation checklist]]

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