Talk:Female domination

The article was copied from Wikipedia, ideally this should be edited to make it more relevant to the UK scene and to the BDSM community as a whole.

My sense of the connotation of "femdom"

To me, "femdom" is not simply the fact that a female is dominant. It suggests a certain subset of that. Among other things, I would use this term only where the female retains a reasonably specifically femme persona. That doesn't mean that she can't (for example) use a strap-on, but I would not consider a dominant dykey butch to be doing femdom. (Now, a woman lending her husband to that dykey butch for a pegging? That's femdom.)

Similarly, I see femdom as involving at least some degree of eroticism (vs. straight-out pain play). I would hesitate to use the word "femdom" about a scenario in which a woman simply administered a beating to a man in a context where genitals don't enter the picture. That would certainly be female-dominant S/m, but I would probably never call it "femdom".

Conversely, I would be very quick to use this term for anything around a complex of elements such as tease and denial of the male, cunt and ass worship, humiliation (especially slightly infantilizing humiliation, or "small dick" humiliation) of a male by a female, forced feminization, expression of affection simultaneously with infliction of pain, etc.

Would others make a similar distinction? Or is this just me being idiosyncratic in my usage?- Switchy 09:28, 28 December 2008 (UTC)