Negotiating in scene
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'''Negotiating in scene''' mixes [[negotiation]] with [[play]], especially in a [[D/s]] context. | '''Negotiating in scene''' mixes [[negotiation]] with [[play]], especially in a [[D/s]] context. | ||
| − | In physical play, negotiating in scene typically consists simply of slowly moving toward more intense forms of an activity, checking in continually to see if you are approaching | + | In physical play, negotiating in scene typically consists simply of slowly moving toward more intense forms of an activity, checking in continually to see if you are approaching your [[limit]]s. |
| − | In | + | In D/s, negotiation itself can be made into a scene. For example, a [[Dom]] can start out by giving the new [[sub]] a [[safeword]], and then negotiate by [[interrogation]]. Often, the questions are ones where the mere fact of being able to ask such a question reinforces the power relationship. |
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Some sample questions for negotiating in scene: | Some sample questions for negotiating in scene: | ||
| − | * Tell me something that we can pretend is a punishment, but is actually a reward. | + | * Tell me something that we can pretend is a [[discipline|punishment]], but is actually a reward. |
| − | * I want you to name something that is within your | + | * I want you to name something that is within your [[limit]]s, but which you don't really enjoy, and that I may use if I really want to punish you within a scene. |
| − | * What's the most submissive/masochistic thing you've ever done? | + | * What's the most submissive/[[masochism|masochistic]] thing you've ever done? |
| − | * How would you feel about me giving you orders to do something when I'm not around? (For example) Is it within your limits if I left a message on your mobile phone ordering you to masturbate to orgasm? How about if I left a message telling you that you may not masturbate at all until you see me again? | + | * How would you feel about me giving you orders to do something when I'm not around? (For example) Is it within your limits if I left a message on your mobile phone ordering you to [[masturbation|masturbate]] to [[orgasm]]? How about if I left a message telling you that you may not masturbate at all until you see me again? |
| + | == See also == | ||
| + | * [[Interrogation]] | ||
| + | * [[Power]] | ||
| + | * [[Power exchange]] | ||
| + | * [[Scene]] | ||
| + | * [[Scene negotiation checklist]] | ||
[[Category:BDSM]] | [[Category:BDSM]] | ||
Latest revision as of 15:26, 23 March 2014
Negotiating in scene mixes negotiation with play, especially in a D/s context.
In physical play, negotiating in scene typically consists simply of slowly moving toward more intense forms of an activity, checking in continually to see if you are approaching your limits.
In D/s, negotiation itself can be made into a scene. For example, a Dom can start out by giving the new sub a safeword, and then negotiate by interrogation. Often, the questions are ones where the mere fact of being able to ask such a question reinforces the power relationship.
Some sample questions for negotiating in scene:
- Tell me something that we can pretend is a punishment, but is actually a reward.
- I want you to name something that is within your limits, but which you don't really enjoy, and that I may use if I really want to punish you within a scene.
- What's the most submissive/masochistic thing you've ever done?
- How would you feel about me giving you orders to do something when I'm not around? (For example) Is it within your limits if I left a message on your mobile phone ordering you to masturbate to orgasm? How about if I left a message telling you that you may not masturbate at all until you see me again?
