Humiliation - Personal Experiences
Third parties
Interestingly, as of this writing, our article on humiliation doesn't mention the involvement of third parties. I've always found that humiliation is much more effective when it involves someone other than just the top and the bottom. I'm not talking about parading your sub through the public market on a leash (which either comes off as theatre or involves people non-consensually in your scene, or both).
A few years back my then-girlfriend C put me in genital bondage under my clothes before we headed for a mutual friend's birthday party. The crowd was rather mixed, and C certainly didn't involve any non-kinky people in the situation, but at one point she remarked, in my presence, to a couple of other women, that my cock was tied up and that it would probably be painful for me to get hard. C and I were to a point in our relationship where there was nothing humiliating about her tying me up like that, but telling her friends was another story. And when the women started asking C about the ropework, and was this punishment or just play, and her explaining I was a "good boy" as they proceeded to discuss this as if I weren't there except for remarks like, "You are very obedient aren't you?" Very sexy, entirely through the humiliation of being so objectified.
I've done this one from the other side, too. I had just given K a hand-spanking, and when we went over to my friend D's house she was not exactly feeling like sitting down on the wooden chair she was offered. She tried demurring with just "No, I think I'd rather stand right now", but I wouldn't let her off the hook so easily. "Now, K, don't be shy, tell D why you don't want to sit down." She blushed so completely that he knew the answer before she even told him. But I still made her say it.
