A rape fantasy may be a sexual fantasy about rape, a fictional story about a rape, or an acted-out scene of pretend rape between consenting adults. Because real-world rape is a very serious and violent crime, the choice of rape as a subject for fantasy is very disturbing to some people.
There are as many types of rape fantasies as there are people who have them. The limits are confined only by the vast reaches of the mind. They range from unwilling seduction to violent, forceful sex. One can imagine that one is the rapist, or the one being raped. It is estimated that 24% of men and 36% of women have had a rape fantasy, and 10% of women report this is their favourite type of fantasy.  It should not, however, be assumed that a rape fantasy is a wish to engage in the act in reality.
Psychologically, many women (and even some men) turn to rape fantasy because sex is surrounded so much by taboo and religious restrictions. Rape fantasy can be a psychological device by which a person may safely experience intense sexuality and emotions without guilt, since it is not their choice, or "their fault". It can also represent an outlet for sexually submissive men and women, and also sexual dominants can imagine themselves as having sexual control or power without actually committing an illegal or immoral act. Finally, as with many sexual fantasies, rape may be appealing because it is a taboo.
Many people assume that people aroused by rape fantasies must be more likely than others to commit the actual act, or that victims with rape fantasies actually want to become victims of sexual assault. This does not correspond with observed scientific evidence, however; while rapists usually fantasize about rape, so do normal psychologically healthy people.
In fact, an inability to use sexual fantasies for gratification is often regarded by law enforcement and other professionals as a more alarming warning sign than the presence of sexual fantasies of rape or sadism. Millions of normal people fantasize about rape, or being raped without wanting it to happen in reality.
For some who have actually been sexually abused, rape fantasy may be a way to heal past wounds by exploring in a safe environment with a sense of control.
Rape Fantasy is also a sub-genre of erotic fiction. Just as some people like to imagine rape, others like to write and read about it.
Again it should be noted that just because someone is writing or reading fictional rape accounts, even if they are aroused by it, does not mean they actually wish to rape or be raped.
One form of sexual roleplaying is the rape fantasy, also called "ravishment". Ravishment has become the more popular term in BDSM circles, as it makes a distinction between consensual roleplay and nonconsensual assault.
Since the illusion of non-consensuality is important to the fantasy, one or more safewords are typically employed. This way, a participant can protest without stopping the scene, unless the safeword is used. Often a variation on the "stop-light" system is used, with different colors designating different messages: "red" to stop everything, "yellow" to slow down or take it easy, and so forth. For scenes where there is an element of surprise, the top or "ravisher" may use a "startword" or other identifying signal.
In healthy ravishment scenes, all participants carefully negotiate what will transpire beforehand. Limits are respected and made very clear, to maintain safety and consensuality. Such negotiation would also include discussion of emotional issues for both partners, especially if there has been a prior history of actual sexual abuse or assault.
- Rape Fantasy vs. Reality
- Sex... And Cultural Taboo
- Ravenstone, Desmond. Ravishment: The Dark Side of Erotic Fantasy (2005) ISBN 1-4116-5547-8
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