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| − | A '''Top''' | + | A '''Top''' is a partner who, at least nominally, has control and takes the [[dominant]]/giving role in such acts as [[bondage]], [[discipline]] (e.g. [[flogging]]) or [[humiliation]]. The top might use physical or psychological means to perform acts such as these upon the [[Bottom (BDSM)|bottom]]. In Japanese bondage and sexually-themed [[anime]] and manga (especially yaoi), a top is referred to as '''seme''', a term from Martial Arts. (The opposite of seme is '''uke'''). |
| − | + | A top may be male or female and of any sexual orientation. A top need not be a sexual [[Top (sex)|top]] (i.e. insertive sex partner). Activities between a Top and Bottom might or might not include sex. | |
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| + | In order to explore [[BDSM]], it is essential for a top to be responsive to the needs, feelings, and limits of his or her bottom. Otherwise the [[scene]] can be ruined, being simply painful or inconvenient rather than [[erotic]]. | ||
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| + | It is possible for two partners to [[switch]] roles from one encounter to the other, or even during a single encounter, depending on mood and preference. | ||
| − | A | + | A top might also be a [[sadist]] but is unlikely to be a [[masochist]]. |
| + | A top in the dominant role is not necessarily a [[Dominant]] or [[Master]]. | ||
| − | The top | + | The relationship between a top and their bottom may be very transitory or can be permanent, including being married. Whatever the circumstances, accurate and clear [[negotiation]] is recommended. |
| − | + | == Topping under direction == | |
| + | The top is sometimes the partner who is following instructions, i.e., they apply sensation or control to a bottom when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom, either generally or for a specific scene. There are a number of reasons for this: | ||
| − | + | * A '''service top''', often a [[Dominatrix]], may be acting on the bottom as a favour or commercial service. Many professional service tops are not dominant in general and many will switch according to the customer. | |
| − | + | * The bottom may want to be dominated in some way but also feels a desire or need to direct the top precisely how to do it. This is known as '[[Topping from the bottom]]' and is sometimes considered in a derogatory manner because it often indicates that the bottom doesn't trust the top well enough for some reason, or simply that a scene has not been negotiated thoroughly enough. | |
| − | + | * The bottom may want to be dominated in some way - particularly bondage or flogging - and has far more experience than the top, who needs to learn how to do things safely and well to achieve the desired results for the bottom. | |
| − | + | A top who has been given more power in general over their partner and might give orders would usually be termed a [[Dom]] (or [[Dominant]]) or possibly a [[Master]], or the gender equivalents. | |
| − | + | ==Personal Experiences== | |
| + | * [[Top (BDSM) - Personal Experiences]] | ||
==See Also== | ==See Also== | ||
* [[BDSM Roles]] | * [[BDSM Roles]] | ||
* [[Top (sex)]] | * [[Top (sex)]] | ||
| − | * [[Master (BDSM)|Master]] [[Mistress]] [[Owner]] | + | * [[Master (BDSM)|Master]] / [[Mistress]] / [[Owner]] |
| − | * [[Dom]] [[Domme]] [[Dominatrix | + | * [[Dom]] / [[Domme]] / [[Dominatrix]] |
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* [[Bottom (BDSM)|Bottom]] | * [[Bottom (BDSM)|Bottom]] | ||
| − | * [[Dominant]] | + | * [[Dominant]] |
| − | * [[Submissive]] | + | * [[Submissive]] |
* [[Switch]] | * [[Switch]] | ||
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== References and further reading == | == References and further reading == | ||
Latest revision as of 16:09, 14 April 2021
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[edit] Role
A Top is a partner who, at least nominally, has control and takes the dominant/giving role in such acts as bondage, discipline (e.g. flogging) or humiliation. The top might use physical or psychological means to perform acts such as these upon the bottom. In Japanese bondage and sexually-themed anime and manga (especially yaoi), a top is referred to as seme, a term from Martial Arts. (The opposite of seme is uke).
A top may be male or female and of any sexual orientation. A top need not be a sexual top (i.e. insertive sex partner). Activities between a Top and Bottom might or might not include sex.
In order to explore BDSM, it is essential for a top to be responsive to the needs, feelings, and limits of his or her bottom. Otherwise the scene can be ruined, being simply painful or inconvenient rather than erotic.
It is possible for two partners to switch roles from one encounter to the other, or even during a single encounter, depending on mood and preference.
A top might also be a sadist but is unlikely to be a masochist. A top in the dominant role is not necessarily a Dominant or Master.
The relationship between a top and their bottom may be very transitory or can be permanent, including being married. Whatever the circumstances, accurate and clear negotiation is recommended.
[edit] Topping under direction
The top is sometimes the partner who is following instructions, i.e., they apply sensation or control to a bottom when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom, either generally or for a specific scene. There are a number of reasons for this:
- A service top, often a Dominatrix, may be acting on the bottom as a favour or commercial service. Many professional service tops are not dominant in general and many will switch according to the customer.
- The bottom may want to be dominated in some way but also feels a desire or need to direct the top precisely how to do it. This is known as 'Topping from the bottom' and is sometimes considered in a derogatory manner because it often indicates that the bottom doesn't trust the top well enough for some reason, or simply that a scene has not been negotiated thoroughly enough.
- The bottom may want to be dominated in some way - particularly bondage or flogging - and has far more experience than the top, who needs to learn how to do things safely and well to achieve the desired results for the bottom.
A top who has been given more power in general over their partner and might give orders would usually be termed a Dom (or Dominant) or possibly a Master, or the gender equivalents.
[edit] Personal Experiences
[edit] See Also
- BDSM Roles
- Top (sex)
- Master / Mistress / Owner
- Dom / Domme / Dominatrix
- Bottom
- Dominant
- Submissive
- Switch
[edit] References and further reading
- Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy. The New Topping Book. Greenery Press, 2003. ISBN 1890159360.
